"What are your favorite resources that you use to develop those skills?"
Non verbals, body language skills ~ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/spycatcher
Ask HN: What are your best “soft skill” resources?
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#62Soft Skill by John Sonmez (published by MAnning)
Although written as the "Software Developer's Life Manual" the lessons taught in this book is universal to all careers.
I really wish I had this manual 21 years when I started out on my career. It would have been a great guideline in stead of lessons learned the hard way.
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#63My flacid penis. Yes, that's ma best soft skill wink wink wink
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#64how to win friends and influence people - Dale Carnegie.
The title of the book put me off, but it worthwhile to read. Some of the stuff seems basic, but we all (speaking as a developer) had to learn the basics of computer programming, too.
About to say the same thing. I resisted a couple of times. Just wished that they did not pick a title comes across as manuscript for snake oil selling.
The basic and obvious stuff needs to be spelled out as it solidified the concepts.
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#65What do you want to achieve with soft skill. If to help you develop better software. I think always ask detail question about business, user requirements. Able to break down large business case to smaller ones. Write better comments about your code, should be enough.
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#66I'm surprised by the lack of philosophy writings mentioned here.
I'm averse to sociopathic and manipulative teachings such as my book-by-its-cover judgement of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and the like.
Instead, I began my journey several years ago reading through "Mindfulness in Plain English" by Guranatana. More recently I began frequenting the Farnam Street blog, being turned onto reading "The Obstacle is the Way," by Ryan Holiday, which lead me to "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius, and I'll be picking up "Letters from a Stoic" as soon as I'm done with "The Kingdom of God Is Within You" by Tolstoy (having never read Tolstoy's non-fiction writing previous to "A Letter to a Hindu," which was posted to Hacker News a few weeks ago).
I would say that the most powerful book I've read is Meditations. The perspective the book holds is that you are a person, and people are pre-wired to do good for society and for other people (as entities); that this is innate in you, and you MUST use this to do good. It is a book focused on resilience in the face of circumstances, people and things that people do that aren't good.
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#67The book of Proverbs in the Bible. I'm amazed at how useful these brief, to-the-point and very practical advice have been in my life, time after time.
While being very (sometimes almost humoristically) concrete, I have figured that there are great principles there in behind, that you'll get committed into your spine, by testing these advice out in practice.
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#68I'm surprised by the lack of philosophy writings mentioned here. I'm averse to sociopathic and manipulative teachings such as my book-by-its-cover judgement of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and the like. Instead, I began my journey several years ago reading through "Mindfulness in Plain English" by Guranatana. More recently I began frequenting the Farnam Street blog, being turned onto reading "The Obstacl…
I second this. Focusing on good teachings such as "Meditations" is simply a good way to live life, and the rest follows.
Related to "Meditations" is "The Art of Living" which is a collection of teachings from Epictetus. Epictetus was Marcus Aurelius' teacher. It's collected in such a way that each page makes a point that you can think about for the rest of the day and try to apply it - like a devotional.
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#69Always a risk to self-promote, but last month our team launched our Compass Platform - Behavioral Indicators and associated support to help business founders and leadership teams in private enterprise [1]. I've found these are more balanced, so work better than tools like DISC and Myers-Briggs, which tend to 'put people into a box' and therefore work against creating an inclusive environment. The four soft skills the…
Reading your website now. All the more exposure, all the more to learn. I do disagree with your assessment of Myers-Briggs and DiSC, however; perhaps that's because of my exposure to them differs: I've always seen Myers-Briggs as an example of self-discovery, rather than putting others into a box. i.e. "Are you aware you do these things?" with the answer often "No" or "Actually, I thought I was the opposite." My firs…
Myers-Briggs is totally ascientific and could be thought of as self-discovery in the same sense reading tea leaves is.
Myers-Briggs has been repeatedly found to have no reliability or validity as a personality trait assessment and has been totally superseded in psychology research by the OCEAN metrics, which are empirically developed.
Ironically, the only place I still see MBTI used is in computer science papers.