Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse”

This is why I use okcupid. People there actually want to get to know other people.

and in person.

Speaking as a happily ugly old person who has never used Tinder: whether you are a man or a woman, it is your decision to date someone or not. Nobody is putting a gun to your head. When both sides get to say yea or nay without coercion, this is one situation which is actually symmetrical.

So if you feel like you are getting a bad deal on the dating scene because you are hooking up with people you really don't like and your life is a constant churn, that should tell you that you are being too desperate. Put on the brakes. Let the people who are impatient, demanding and rude move along. Learn to live by yourself and to relate to people non-sexually. Then apply those skills to develop more meaningful relationships. Otherwise, you're just putting convenience first - then complaining that the result was optimized for convenience over other priorities. Other people you'd never think about can't even get any dates, and you're bitching that being non-selective doesn't give you all the results of being selective.

This is a first-world problem for beautiful people with ample disposable income. In many parts of the world, including New York, you might be lucky if you can pick strawberries or make clothes for $2/hr to support a large family you didn't choose to have. Most people who ever existed had no option to participate in "hookup culture."

Men face the same value issues as well, that door definitely swings both ways.