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Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by burfog »

Razengan wrote: post #45

Current dating apps/services are little more than ad platforms; you advertise yourself to the pool of members they claim to reach, and you pay to have your ad shown to more people more often (Tinder's Boost, OKCupid's A-List.) Apparently they actually hinder matches unless both people are paying. Some of those prices are laughably ridiculous, like Tinder's $40 for a 3 hour "boost", with no indication of effectiveness…

They do need to make money. How would you have them do it?

My preference is a markup on the cost of validating alleged attributes. If you claim to be 6'2" tall, that might be validated with a notarized statement from a doctor. If you claim to have a degree, that can be checked via the usual electronic clearinghouse non-profit that universities use. If you claim to own property, county records can be checked. All this costs money. Apply a markup, and that gives a profit that will seem reasonably fair to most people.

Another way is to sell the obvious products, ranging from condoms to wedding rings.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by plemer »

StavrosK wrote: post #41
daliwali wrote: post #14

Hahaha this will never work for an obvious reason that isn't socially acceptable to state. As soon as looks get involved, it's over.

Why isn't it socially acceptable to state that looks are important? I feel like people are conflating "external appearance matters" and "external appearance is all that matters" and demonizing the former in their attempt to ward away the latter.

That, but also some who feel they’re losing the beauty game want to flip the board over.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by iudqnolq »

chillacy wrote: post #74
dlkf wrote: post #70

Props for building this! The online dating market is a complete mess. It's basically an oligopoly, and has a pretty obvious misalignment of incentives. Novel ideas and competition are sorely needed. As regards all the brilliant psychologists here who are commenting "looks matter to most people!": it's not as though you will find every person you meet on ohmyperson unattractive. The issue is that meeting people you fi…

This is basically what happened when Ok Cupid tried this as an experiment for one day. Long conversations were instantly abandoned.

Can you expand? I'd like to learn more about this. Ok Cupid used to publish lots of interesting blog posts, so I'm assuming you got that from one, but I can't find it. Do you have a link?

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by octorian »

duelingjello wrote: post #54

I’ve thought about this a lot. I think it’s important that dating people match based on relative attractiveness, health, energy level, tidiness, age/maturity, mental attitude, goals and standard of living. Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.” Perhaps a more palatable way to approach this is to legitimately screen/curate each applicant and rate them honestly so…

> Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.”

This. So much this. Above all else.

Playing the whole game of an online back-and-forth "relationship" before the first meeting is annoying and exhausting. Honestly, it feels like a complete waste of time as well.

There will be a yay/nay decision made by at least one party, within the first FIVE MINUTES of that first in-person meeting, that will render EVERYTHING previously exchanged online to be completely irrelevant. Better to just get to that point as quickly as possible, and not kid ourselves about it.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by plemer »

mirimir wrote: post #69
nikkwong wrote: post #59

> "References: He was really nice to me, and one of the nicest guys I've ever dated. We had some issues with his parents not liking me, that eventually caused us to break up. but otherwise I'm envious of the next person who gets to be with him!" The juxtaposition between dating and references.. doesn't work, at least to me. I can't imagine actually writing this about an ex. Especially, curious as to the circumstance…

That sounds pretty good to me. Funny story. Good references from one of my ex wives got me in bed with two of her friends. However, they didn't want me, just my sperm. But it was still fun.

That’s more of an overt brag than a funny story.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by mirimir »

plemer wrote: post #85
mirimir wrote: post #69

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That sounds pretty good to me. Funny story. Good references from one of my ex wives got me in bed with two of her friends. However, they didn't want me, just my sperm. But it was still fun.

That’s more of an overt brag than a funny story.

Maybe. But I did say that they didn't actually want a relationship, which isn't such a brag.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by boring_twenties »

m463 wrote: post #58
dinkleberg wrote: post #32

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

I vaguely recall computerized dating based on punched cards. I guess expectations have gone up.

Do you just line them up and see how many of the same holes are punched in both?

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by plemer »

mirimir wrote: post #86
plemer wrote: post #85

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That’s more of an overt brag than a funny story.

Maybe. But I did say that they didn't actually want a relationship, which isn't such a brag.

I read it mostly as “sex with me comes highly recommended and I have desirable sperm.”

But if you were looking for a relationship, I can see how that wouldn’t have felt as...victorious? I didn’t get that context from your original comment though.

Anyway, good night.

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