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There are cry rooms?
Yeah, like a room in the back specifically for crying babies (and their families).
How much extra per long-haul airplane ticket would you pay for this? I'd gladly add 20% minimum.
Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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I can't imagine anything worse than going to the gym. What do you do there? Walk on a treadmill like a mouse in a laboratory? Also, you come back starving because you've burned calories, probably eating way more than you should due to being famished. And it's also extremely boring. I've tried it once or twice, but I just can't handle it. Genuinely interested in how some people manage to consistently keep going to the…
I used to feel exactly like you, until I started for health reasons, and found I couldn’t have been more wrong. Weight training is the most cognitively demanding thing I’ve ever done, not at all mindless or boring. Using proper form and technique is essentially a martial art, and takes tremendous skill and focus, and can advance in skill limitlessly. As a competitive strongman, I’m also always pushing my skills by li…
I'll give the weight training a chance. What you say certainly make sense and I can't just dismiss something without trying.
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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Cardio exercise is absolutely dreadful. Try lifting weights, heavy ones (after studying form via YouTube videos and verifying that your form is correct on lighter weights). Pushing your limits is neither boring nor time-consuming. 45 minutes is enough for a vigorous workout.
> Cardio exercise is absolutely dreadful. Indoor cardio, sure. Walking/hiking/running/biking outdoors is great.
Amen
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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Yup. I joined a climbing gym. Hanging out with a lot of people both older and younger than you is refreshing. Not much shared misery though when it comes to climbing, always had a blast.
It's weird, I have done quite a bit of top-roping and bouldering, but never really found it conducive to making friendships. Or maybe I'm just not the right demographic (early 40s, male). Definitely I chat to people about specific problems, but it never really seems to go beyond that.
I think it depends a lot on you and your level of outgoing friendliness and openness to striking up deeper conversations with strangers.
I read a lot of the responses here and couldn't see myself making friends in those sorts of situations (and have indeed been in some of them, without results), just because I'm not that particular kind of social to make it work.
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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Yup. I joined a climbing gym. Hanging out with a lot of people both older and younger than you is refreshing. Not much shared misery though when it comes to climbing, always had a blast.
100% climbing. I think that - unlike many gyms and other fitness communities - it's very welcoming to non-conformistist and people who don't look like typical gym junkies. It's hard to have an ego when just about everyone gets outclimbed by 12yo girls, and the best climber in the world looks like someone who got fired from a big tech company because he looked too geeky: http://www.alpinist.com/doc/web16f/newswire-ond…
My experience may be a bit dated (late '00s), but from the few times I tried climbing (and from interacting with the climbing-friends of people I knew from other activities), I found most of them to be standoffish, and a little bit too "proud" of their chosen hobby, as if climbing was somehow a noble endeavor, and that participating in it showed that you were of good breeding or something.
I certainly have no basis in painting all climbers with this brush, but this was my experience, and I found it to be pretty bizarre. Completely turned me off to making climbing a hobby of my own.
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
#476Reading the comments, I notice a lot of posters seek out tech communities. While I get why a nerd would want to do that, I have a different tendency. Most of my outside-of-work activities are actually not tech related. Sure, I have a bunch of private projects to work on, but I usually do that in single player mode. I picked up a number of "also working in tech" friends over time, and going out with them is still fun…
> I notice a lot of posters seek out tech communities. While I get why a nerd would want to do that, I have a different tendency. Absolutely! I genuinely enjoy writing code at work, but I literally never do it in my spare time. I already spend a greater number of waking hours in front of my computer than I do with my friends and family (or playing music, or mountain biking, or...).
I do spend a lot of my spare time writing code for free, but I think a healthy, well-rounded person should get outside one genre of activity at least some of the time!
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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leaving SF was a godsend. I was tired of everyone being in tech and it's nice interacting with people that are actually diverse and don't all work in the same industry and have the same mindsets.
That's the saddest part about people who moved to SF for tech. They moved here, interacted with their coworkers, who are tech workers, they found roommates through their company, so their roommates are also tech workers, and so all their friends are also tech workers, all the people at parties they go to are tech workers. So it's no surprise all they know of San Francisco is tech. There's more to San Francisco than t…
As someone who moved 20 years ago to the bay area, and later SF proper, for a tech job, I totally agree with that. While the majority of my friends here are still in STEM-related fields (at least they're not all traditionally "tech"), it's very important to get out of the tech bubble early and often to see what else is out there.
Still here post-COVID, and similarly happy that many of the people who hated it here and were only here for their jobs are gone now. Granted, I don't love the city like I once did, but I still find it satisfying to live here, despite the cost of living.
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
#478Nowhere!!!
All the good communities are online only.
I want to meet people with similar interetsts locally.
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I second that. I do a 5:15 am class on weekdays even during the summer when I don't have to take kids to school. My wife pushes me to sleep in a little and do a later morning class but I would miss my 5:15 crew so I keep getting up at 4:30 a.m. I love the community in CrossFit.
Is there any eh video (short-docu style) on CrossFit? All I know about it is that people make fun of it. And they do weird pull-ups that I don't want to do. But I am attracted to the community aspect because I've also heard about that.
Try lifting things inappropriately for a few months while telling everyone how great CrossFit is because it focuses on “real world strength”. Eventually mess up your back and never mention CrossFit again.
That’s how it worked for my sister at least.
Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?
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+1 for this. No church is perfect, but my experience is that church is a place where I can go to gather with people from diverse backgrounds, perspectives, and needs and come together on some common points: we need more than ourselves to make it through life, we need to be kinder, and we should serve each other. I have seen my congregation rally around new parents, people with mental health conditions, and other such…
While I totally understand why you'd find community there, I am surprised that you'd consider Church to be a place to find people of diverse backgrounds. That hasn't at all been my experience
My church has one couple where both spouses were born in the same country.
We span many past religions and world views. Poor backgrounds and wealthy.
But we all now hold a very similar world view. So we don't have the kind of diversity some people think of. We're not defined by our pasts as much as we are by our common beliefs.