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Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

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Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#351

Do not talk to your wife. Talk to your best friend, talk to your parents, talk to a therapist, don't talk to your wife. Your wife loves you so if you say you are depressed, she will be understanding and let you lay in bed all day if you want. She will make meals for you, she will do the chores around the house because she wants to help you and you feel too tired to do those things. But depression will only get worse…

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Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#352

Are you familiar with the concept of the False dilemma[0]? It seems as if you've limited yourself to an "either/or" situation when in fact there are countless other possible solutions to this problem. Here are some possible alternatives: - find a leadership coach and/or mentor - delegate the parts of your job that you like the least - find a way to reduce stress in your life (exercise, hobby, etc) - try professional…

This is a great list but feels unsorted. I'd go with:

1. Take a vacation.

2. Converse with someone you love and trust

The rest will likely follow. Again great list!

Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#354

OP, you have more than the choices you listed. Here's a choice: Get acquired and then leave as soon as you can walk away with a mountain of cash. Act like you will stay forever. But leave in a year. Leave money on the table if you must, but grab a huge chunk of it first. Do not tell anyone about your plan. Not even your wife. If you tell your wife how you feel, she will likely: - Lose respect for you - start hunting…

> If you tell your wife how you feel, she will likely:

> - Lose respect for you - start hunting for a better provider [...] Hypergamy is real

Please stop posting ideological boilerplate to HN, and please stop creating new accounts to do it. I've heard there are other websites where people enjoy trading such material with each other; this is not one of them.

Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#355
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So does that mean you're hiring developers? Hit me up - email is on profile.

If anything he'd be hiring a manager or c level.

Apparently 3-4 people think it is in bad taste to volunteer my services. I won't retract it. It was in good taste to offer help to an individual that is struggling.

Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#356

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is not about hating woman. You are pulling the 'misogyny' card and don't know what you are talking about. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that a woman (or anyone) will want someone who is stable emotionally and doesn't cry to them over making serious money because "unhappy". I will never tell me enemies to "get out" or label them with a word to shame them. Look in the mirror. Your comment history is so…

> I will never tell me enemies to "get out" or label them with a word to shame them. LOL and yet you called me a white knight literally one minute after you posted this comment. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14422213 Stew in your misogyny and hypocrisy elsewhere so we don't have to deal with you here kthx.

That commenter was particularly bad and we've banned the account. Still, you've also gone on tilt quite badly yourself in this thread. Please don't—it makes things worse in several ways, despite your positive intention to defend the community.

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Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#357

I don't understand why you're being down voted. Most women can't handle adversity, especially if she doesn't work and relies on your income. Two relationships ended due to me losing my job and essentially coming clean saying I was depressed. In hindsight, they lost respect for me. People say you aren't your job, but psychologically it really is.

> Most women can't handle adversity

If you post anything like this to HN again, we will ban you.

Re: Ask HN: I don't want to be a founder anymore

#358
Are you in a position to discuss with your co-founders? If there's money in the company maybe they could buy you out based on the EBITDA of the existing offers, getting you out of the company sooner and not scuppering any deals on the table (which might take years to complete).
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