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Just curious, why did you start this company in the first place, if it's an uninteresting "glorified CRUD app"?
Also it could be his perception because he has done it over and over. Someone new or outsider may not have same view. If you ask Larry Page to re-work on search engine, he may not enjoy it so much as he has done his time.
I've learned that being in charge is ... Sort of awful. I'd make many of the same decisions again, but I have regrets.
There is always a person to do a job. It's just the matter of what you are willing to give up for your own peace of mind.
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Those are probably more effective venues for killing burnout not for the reasons you give, but because those activities usually incur some goal (covering certain mileage, getting to a destination) that restores the association of reward with effort... Versus being at the beach, which simply doesn't.
I love the beach, but it's passive, so I'm still turning over work in my mind as I'm there. Swimming, hiking, camping, etc. give me tasks and actively distract me.
OP, you have more than the choices you listed. Here's a choice: Get acquired and then leave as soon as you can walk away with a mountain of cash. Act like you will stay forever. But leave in a year. Leave money on the table if you must, but grab a huge chunk of it first. Do not tell anyone about your plan. Not even your wife. If you tell your wife how you feel, she will likely: - Lose respect for you - start hunting…
Seeking out professional therapy and/or sharing your feelings with others is the opposite of weak, it's courageous.
Now I want to enjoy a vicarious "I told you so" ( since I didn't tell you anything ! ). I have however heard the advice said many times that before you startup a startup consider if you really care about it so much that you shall want to be doing it in 10 years. Didn't you think about that? Haha. Schadenfreude.
Or maybe it's just a case of "You need to love what you do, because shit gets really really hard, and any rational person would give up." Maybe shit is just really really hard and you don't love it. So, nothing wrong with you. Just your situation is sub optimal.
I don't know how this works, but if you can get your stock options ( if they've vested ), just take them, and to do the acquisition or not depending on whether that will net you more money.
Dude -- screw the duty to investors and employees -- take care of yourself. You probably never know how much time you have in this body, so do what you wanna do. Pull the trigger, since time is your most valuable asset. Why sink another 3 to 6 months ? ( Sunk Cost Fallacy ) -- just get out and be with your family. What if you try to white knuckle this, choose to be a slave to your investors and employees ( slaves ), "do the right thing", and your relationship with your wife frays, and you can't fix it...and you're in worse shape 6 months down the line?
Take care of your mental health. Fixing the company, finding a replacement, serving your investors and employees doesn't sound to me like it is going to improve your mental health. So do something that will.
And remember, depression is really just anger ( barring "chemical imbalance" believers -- sorry where does that imbalance come from? either you've always been nature / nurture fucked up, or you made choices that didn't work emotionally for you, and "chemically imbalanced yourself" ), turned inward on yourself, that you haven't found a constructive outlet to express. So work out what you are angry about ( maybe about this company, or something about this situation ) and work out a constructive way to fix the problem. You are a problem solver, right?
Working at Wal Mart, doesn't seem to me like it is a constructive solution. But yeah, talk to a professional. And are you dealing with some loss of a close family member or friend? That's definitely capable of contributing to how you are now. And it certainly pays to talk to a professional to help you through that.
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That's ridiculous. 1) that's an idiotic stereotype. Men and women both will react in similar ways. 2) Doesn't make a difference what "type" of person she is. They are married and she has every right to know (and voice her opinion on) if a big part of their financial future will be impacted by him feeling burned out. Hopefully she'll be supportive, but either way she deserves to know the truth.
1) I never said that women are the only ones who do this. I just said if she is the type who will support you. Nowhere in my statement did I say anywhere near all women are of type X. You seemed to assume I meant that, which I didn't. I know the value of a supportive woman. My girlfriend is MOSTLY supportive but I don't dump everything on her. Learn to deal with stuff yourself and you'll be happier. 2) It absolutely…
Not appropriate. Take that shit elsewhere.
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>blow you till your head pops Gross. Please practice better analogies. Edit: and the implication that sexual favors are the way a wife can support her husband... Geez...
Gross? You must be a prudish woman.
And if they are? Still welcome here.
Shit like this is not appropriate. Either stop saying it, or get out.
It's just a load you are telling yourself your product is too complicated for anyone else to take over.