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Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Post by mattzito »

ty6853 wrote: post #197
mattzito wrote: post #190

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> It doesn't make sense that married people can willfully lower standard of living but non custodial parents cannot. Of course it does - because both parents are responsible for the welfare of the children, and so if they both decide that they want to lower the standard of living that is a shared/joint agreement. If the non-custodial parent decides they want to lower their child's standard of living, a) that is a uni…

>Of course it does - because both parents are responsible for the welfare of the children, and so if they both decide that they want to lower the standard of living that is a shared/joint agreement. So a couple points here 1) we've now moved the goal posts, we went from the child needs the same standard of living, to now it is OK to lower it if both decide, to whatever extent that happens in dual custody situations.…

I didn’t move the goal posts, I was referring to your married couple example. If you are married and you jointly agree to change the standard of living because of your shared goals/values, that’s your business.

When you’re not married anymore, I’m in favor of the idea of making it easier to change child support payments in situations where things are amicable and jointly agreed to. I am very much aware that is not the situation today.

My point about losing flexibility is that when you have kids, your choices are not your own anymore. You can say all you want that they need “necessities”, but I know from experience that the way people interpret that varies widely. I think the only fair way to do it is to keep QOL as the goal. If you want more accountability as to how the money is spent, sure, though I’m not sure how that would work in practice.

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Post by phendrenad2 »

kaikai wrote: post #133
john_moscow wrote: post #123

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No point in setting yourself on fire to keep others warm though.

Actually I think caring for your children is one of the few times where it DOES make sense to set yourself on fire to keep them warm. I get the logic of needing room to get on one’s feet, but those kids still need care. Presumably their other parent is already sacrificing to pick up the slack.

This whole thread is a masterclass on why having children is a bad idea in our society. Yikes.

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Post by codezero »

jart wrote: post #118

Gosh is there no forum on the Internet for smart people curious about technology? When did Hacker News become Hobo News?

This is a really disappointing comment coming from you. It would cost you nothing to have not made it and moved on.

Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Post by asdf6969 »

revnode wrote: post #200
asdf6969 wrote: post #138

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Is this a joke? Genuinely the worst advice I have ever read on this site. > Start taking on as much contract work doing "freelance tech" that I can find Why do you think he could find any?

He asked what would you do. That's what I would do. And that's what I did. I'm sorry to hear you can't find work, but that's not a problem everyone shares.

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Post by Grimblewald »

hn_acc1 wrote: post #106
revnode wrote: post #53

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> I only have a desktop. Sell it. It's a paperweight for you right now. You can find a really nice open-box/used laptop for $300-400 that will allow you to work from anywhere. You can charge the laptop at a cafe or a library. $5 for coffee and you have a working space to take calls and work.

DC-AC Inverter will let you run the laptop from the car as a last resort..

will cost you energy though, making battery less reliable or wasting fuel. Best to charge where you get energy for free.

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Post by susiecambria »

soared wrote: post #11

Ignore 95% of comments here. Research your options for local support through the government and religion. Religion may be more helpful in your area, even if your beliefs don’t exactly align. There is housing, food, etc available to you but you’ll likely need a social worker for help find it. https://switchpointcrc.org/ is local to you with food, shelter, etc. More info from a gov source: https://sgcityutah.gov/busine…

This.

And 211: https://211utah.org/, 888-826-9790. They also have chat and text capability. 211 is "the most comprehensive source of local resources and services in Utah."

OP, good luck.

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Post by colechristensen »

soared wrote: post #11

Ignore 95% of comments here. Research your options for local support through the government and religion. Religion may be more helpful in your area, even if your beliefs don’t exactly align. There is housing, food, etc available to you but you’ll likely need a social worker for help find it. https://switchpointcrc.org/ is local to you with food, shelter, etc. More info from a gov source: https://sgcityutah.gov/busine…

I have helped people navigate government programs and the quality varies. The are often plagued with perverse incentives, abysmal administration, and ridiculous requirements. It can be worth trying, don't get me wrong, but the much better advice at this point for this person I really think is along the lines of finding better employment now that isn't freelance/gig-work to support a home and then building to what's next.

Re: Ask HN: How do I escape homelessness after rebuilding my mental health?

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Post by ccvannorman »

Try to build relationships and friendships with those around you, without asking for anything in return. Relationships are the best asset we have. Find, build, foster, and nourish and treasure them. It will help with mental health, emotional stability, happiness, connections, introductions.

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Post by kerkeslager »

sp_c wrote: post #68

It’s frustrating that we don’t have social programs specifically designed to tackle situations like this. I get that solving homelessness isn’t easy, but there are people who are capable and willing to get back on their feet... they just need the smallest boost! Why isn’t there a tax-funded welfare system specifically for this?

Solving homelessness is actually pretty easy. You just build a bunch of homes and give them to people. That's it. It would be a fraction of the US budget and any of the top 10 richest people in the US could solve it and still be in the top 20.

The problem isn't that it's hard, it's that solving homelessness would undermine a lot of systems that keep rich people rich and powerful people powerful. Fear of homelessness is one of the main reasons people are willing to work in substandard conditions for substandard pay. An artificial scarcity of homes is what keeps housing prices inflated and rent seeking profitable. Homelessness exists not because it's hard to solve, but because there's a strong will not to solve it.

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Post by kerkeslager »

yieldcrv wrote: post #129
kerkeslager wrote: post #97

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Second result for me is "commercial driver's license" on both Kagi and Google.

There is no shared reality on those search engines and on google there hasnt been for almost a decade

Huh?

Kagi was founded in 2018, and I just gave you an example of a shared reality between those two search engines. For your information, the first result of both searches was the same as well.

Obviously given I'm paying for Kagi I believe it has some value over Google, but there's still a pretty significant core of searches that it doesn't really matter which engine you're using.

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