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You're not wrong. I also think it's a trap to think they're in a fundamentally different category than we are. Yes, the blast radius of their harm can be enormous. _And_ they're hu…

> I think that CEOs of those companies are ethically challenged people, narcissists and sociopaths. Likely true in many cases! > there is no evil emerging in big systems That's a v…

I did say "ostensibly" ;) Agreed that power nearly always corrupts. It does so in often subtle and slow shifts. In general we have a paucity of leaders who wield their power on beh…

This... this... this! This resonates soooo deeply with me. The wild thing is that these tech "systems" (aka companies) are made up of ostensibly good people. It's often impossible …

I loved this article. Thank you for sharing it. I felt it put words to an experience I wrote about learning to "play" the piano: https://jondlm.github.io/website/blog/the_joy_of_di…

The topic of this article felt familiar to me. It's similar to ideas in IFS: internal family systems. IFS also uses control systems to describe our internal landscape. If the conce…

Hey Noj! Thanks! I certainly am getting some good rest. Things aren't as bleak as they may appear from my article.

It wasn't. It's the painful truth of how I felt. I'm not saying it's good. In fact, it's _very bad_.

Thank you for the kind comment :)

I completely agree. I didn't talk about it in the post but I have done a lot of therapy over the last couple years. I'm painfully aware of the ways I've projected my past pain onto…

Thank you for the kind words! Thankfully I'm not ground down to a nub. I've found a lot of support over the last few years outside of work.

My boss shared first and was very much clear about it being optional. People bring a lot of context into these conversations and make a lot of assumptions. There is a lot of nuance…

Your red flags are absolutely merited. I won't deny that.

Sorry to hear you've been burned by sharing.

That's rough. Sorry to hear you were pushed.

This is great. I absolutely agree that the best leaders gently invite and lead with appropriate vulnerability. They also don't mind if people say "no" either with words or body lan…

I know I won't be able to convince everyone here, but I didn't feel pressured to share anything deeply personal. Some people on the team didn't. They weren't punished or looked dow…

I'm surprised no one has mentioned https://github.com/koekeishiya/yabai -- it takes a little work to setup but it's well worth the effort. It's keyboard centric and auto lays out w…