Life is not a conveyor belt
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Life is not a conveyor belt
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#2Not quite sure what the point is... wake up sheeple?
You might see me with my degrees, career, dog, child, wife and house and think I'm just another conveyor-belter, but hopefully one day you will realise that every person has a unique story to tell. Even the ones who might seem boring to you.
You don't have to make a grand gesture of differentness in your clothing, music taste, beliefs or lifestyle to actually be different. We are all different by our very nature.
In fact, proclaiming your differentness so loudly could be viewed as more oppressive than seeming to 'conform' to your perceived conveyor-belt.
Life without progress is stagnant. We each choose our own path. It just happens that there are some broad trends amongst the things humans value; like company and security. Marriage, kids, a stable career and a house go a long way towards satisfying those needs. And, without wishing to patronise, those needs do become more acutely felt as you get older.
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#3I think OP should take a look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs :
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#4I think OP should take a look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs
I was going to mention that myself actually.
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#5Every person I know, in their 20's, could have written the same post as OP... Myself included. Now they are all married with children... Myself included.
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#6I think OP should take a look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs
I'm aware of the hierarchy - not sure how it adds to or detracts from my post though? Do you think we inevitably progress up the pyramid as we get older - because I don't think age or progression up a career ladder is particularly correlated with fulfilment of those needs.
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#7It's regret limitation. You can always buy things whenever, but if you want to see your kids grow up and not be too old to play then you NEED to have the kid in your 30's at the latest. Once you pass that point you can never go back.
You're not gonna live forever and you will change your opinions regularly throughout life. Using your time wisely, and investing in a solid future is the 'safe' regret minimising strategy.
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#8Not quite sure what the point is... wake up sheeple? You might see me with my degrees, career, dog, child, wife and house and think I'm just another conveyor-belter, but hopefully one day you will realise that every person has a unique story to tell. Even the ones who might seem boring to you. You don't have to make a grand gesture of differentness in your clothing, music taste, beliefs or lifestyle to actually be di…
Yes, if you go into detail, all people are different. But overall, most people aren't, at least not in a way that matters.
But I have to admit, those who make the difference aren't those who "proclaim their differentness".
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#9One of the strange things about being 40 is meeting people my own age who have college-age children. It's amazing how little I have in common with people who chose that life track.
They seem "old" to me, even though they're often several years younger than me. As though they've lived a lot more life than me, but not the "good" parts of life. I can't imagine how tough it must be to raise a family on an entry-level job, and simultaneously try to progress your way out of that entry-level-ness without the ability to ever roll the dice and not have to worry about feeding anybody else but yourself if things don't work out. Or the ability to put it all on hold and piss off to backpack around Southeast Asia for a year. You can see the shadow of that still on a lot of folks like that, even 20 years on.
It never occurred to me back then how good a decision it was not to get married and start a family right away. Now, raising kids with 20 years worth of leveling up behind me and the resources to do it "right", I think I'm going to have it a lot easier.
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#10You can't escape the conveyor belt, whether you end up with children or you end up alone or something completely different.
You are always part of a much bigger group than you might think. If nothing else physics will take it's toll and you as you get older.