Why It Is Impossible For (Most) Entrepreneurs To Have Girlfriends
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#2Assuming, of course, that "entrepreneurs" are a: male, b: heterosexual, and c: unmarried.
Surely, any decent programmer knows the difference between "majority" and "all", and the algorithmic failures that occur when you mistake one for the other.
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#3"Why It Is Impossible For (Most) Entrepreneurs To Have Girlfriends"
uh..because they're geeks?
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#4Because I don't have enough spare time/energy to
A) Get out and find one.
B) Spend time with her.
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#5Because I don't have enough spare time/energy to A) Get out and find one. B) Spend time with her.
I thought so too, but then
A) I found one.
B) I enjoyed being with her enough that I made more time for her.
Generalizing from my experience, if you just take a chance you'll find that you have more time than you think and that the time you aren't spending on other things isn't missed.
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#6My challenge isn't finding a girlfriend... it's that I've been married for 20 years. I have to ease my spouse into the career change, without upsetting her more than necessary. That means I can't be careless. I'm selling to her as much as to investors or to customers.
This is the kind of difficult dance that happens with long-term relationships. On one hand, if I was given a choice between her and the company, I'd choose her, in a heartbeat. On the other hand, if she made me choose, it would probably ruin our marriage. She sees this is something I must do, so she lets me do it and supports me as much as she can. I am obligated to be as respectful of her concerns as I can be.
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#7Assuming, of course, that "entrepreneurs" are a: male, b: heterosexual, and c: unmarried. Surely, any decent programmer knows the difference between "majority" and "all", and the algorithmic failures that occur when you mistake one for the other.
The author is writing with heteronormative patriarchal assumptions in his ("Steven's") language, which is unfortunate. There are people doing good work to challenge this when it is institutional.
Most of this advice applies to any relationship, though.
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#8Assuming, of course, that "entrepreneurs" are a: male, b: heterosexual, and c: unmarried. Surely, any decent programmer knows the difference between "majority" and "all", and the algorithmic failures that occur when you mistake one for the other.
The author is writing with heteronormative patriarchal assumptions in his ("Steven's") language, which is unfortunate. There are people doing good work to challenge this when it is institutional. Most of this advice applies to any relationship, though.
I wouldn't be so polite as to call it "unfortunate". It's lazy, and it's careless in the kind of way that leads to serious error.
As I pointed out, lots of entrepreneurs (including me) are in committed relationships when the urge to create a new business strikes, and face entirely different challenges. That goes beyond the heteronormative, patriarchal language failures and into a general failure to understand real people.
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#9Earlier quoted context omitted.
The author is writing with heteronormative patriarchal assumptions in his ("Steven's") language, which is unfortunate. There are people doing good work to challenge this when it is institutional. Most of this advice applies to any relationship, though.
I wouldn't be so polite as to call it "unfortunate". It's lazy, and it's careless in the kind of way that leads to serious error. As I pointed out, lots of entrepreneurs (including me) are in committed relationships when the urge to create a new business strikes, and face entirely different challenges. That goes beyond the heteronormative, patriarchal language failures and into a general failure to understand real pe…
Maybe I am being overly diplomatic, but this author is responding to an article that includes the following paragraph:
Women are attention whores. They hear you have money, and they flock to you.
They can’t understand that the entrepreneurial life comes first. You
might have to cancel your dinner plans. You might forget an anniversary.
Drop a ho, your priorities are straight.
(insert political reference about a primary challenge from the left. pick your battles?)
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#10Because I don't have enough spare time/energy to A) Get out and find one. B) Spend time with her.
I thought so too, but then A) I found one. B) I enjoyed being with her enough that I made more time for her. Generalizing from my experience, if you just take a chance you'll find that you have more time than you think and that the time you aren't spending on other things isn't missed.
Good to hear ! How did you manage A :)