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#2It sounds like your question is more "How do I not let my desire for sex get in the way of getting stuff done." and has nothing to really do with relationships. A relationship with the right person would only increase your own creativity and productivity.
I guess I'm extremely fortunate to have a relationship with someone who encourages me when I feel worn out and wants to give up and who understand when I have to put in time to get stuff done. I'm a big believer that the right person for you inspires you to do better and makes you feel like you can achieve anything. I double my efforts because I want to create something of value so that we can both share and enjoy the things we want to do with our lives.
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#3My last relationship would sometimes significantly reduce my desire to create anything.
The good times were great and of course programming was the last thing on my mind. The bad times were simply draining and I'd lose the drive to make progress on my goals.
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#5The initial phase of being in love or going through a breakup, I can't concentrate and my work suffers. When a relationship is working, it has a positive influence on my well-being and that in turn positively affects my creativity and productivity.
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#6It sounds like your question is more "How do I not let my desire for sex get in the way of getting stuff done." and has nothing to really do with relationships. A relationship with the right person would only increase your own creativity and productivity. I guess I'm extremely fortunate to have a relationship with someone who encourages me when I feel worn out and wants to give up and who understand when I have to pu…
I disagree with your reduction of the question I'm asking. It's not just about sex. It's a question about balancing a set of strong (but mostly counterproductive) emotional and physical desires with the higher purpose of getting things done.
I agree with the rest of your post, though.
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#7A roundabout way of looking at it: Do a survey of all the people you admire for their productivity (by your own definition).
You'll probably find there are womanizers, monogamists, recluses, etc, etc. i.e. All types.
It's a leap of a conclusion - But I'd say either it's not correlated, or it's totally unique for every individual.
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#8I'm going to assume by relationship you mean a normal loving relationship, with its up and downs, the normal fights but not abusive or lacking or with a cheating partner.
If that is the case, I can say that it improves my programming, both at work and at home. Yes you have fights, but when you know that you have someone you care about and s/he cares about you it drives you harder to do it. Sure it takes some time from your programming time, but well defined boundaries can be easily set.
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#9One comment that I've seen made is that running a startup is a lot like being in love. So a related question is whether, if you're not in love with someone, you're more likely to totally obsess over your startup (and whether that changes your chances of success)...
But as to the original question, it varies so much on who you're in a relationship with, what you're working on, and how the two fit together. From a startup PoV, is he always demanding you 'stop work' to pay him attention? Is he intrusive rather than supportive? Is he able to deal with you having a spontaneous, flexible schedule that might change at a minute's notice? Is he OK with the fact you don't earn any money? Is he going to scream if you decide you have to move to a different city to succeed? Does he yell at you for getting up in the middle of the night and furiously typing? I could go on all day, and mostly from experience. ;-)
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#10I dunno about about sex but sometimes I find it very disturbing when my girl friend (& some other girls ;) ) call me & making looong conversations.
And if I feel like going to a pr0n site, then I know I'm really bored of tech stuff & etc.