How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult
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#2I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD and this isn’t a particular weak spot for me but even I can relate. I find it most hard when there’s a mismatch in reciprocity.
I enjoy learning from posts like this because it can help identify patterns I might not have otherwise noticed. From there I can do something.
Something I do periodically is scroll my iMessages and see if there are conversations that have been dormant longer than I’d like. If so, I try to think of something to resurrect the thread.
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#3> Recently I've been doing a lot of reading and thinking around developing mechanisms to help with all this, and I stumbled on another term that may be familiar to those familiar with ADHD, too: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (or RSD)
It should be noted that this is just a term one guy made up, and isn't medically accepted as an ADHD symptom.
Of course it is a legitimate thing that happens to people.
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#4I felt the same way until I took antidepressants and stopped giving a shit. It’s really amazing to see how the situations that gave me anxiety was not a big deal at all.
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#5It gets a lot easier if you trim down the number of relationships you actually want to maintain.
There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full!
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#6It gets a lot easier if you trim down the number of relationships you actually want to maintain. There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full!
> There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full!
Been there, done that, i can tell you it’s a bad approach, because relationships don’t last forever and aren’t always smooth 100% of the time.
Having friends is often also having somebody that you can talk about your issues (even about issues with your partner) and get a different opinion.
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#7It gets a lot easier if you trim down the number of relationships you actually want to maintain. There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full!
> There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full! Been there, done that, i can tell you it’s a bad approach, because relationships don’t last forever and aren’t always smooth 100% of the time. Having friends is often also having somebody that you can talk about your issues (even about issues with your partner) and get a different opinion.
Been there, done that. Most of the opinions I've sought - not just received - haven't been worth the time, opportunity, or oxygen they consumed. Winging it has gone well. It's a wash.
Opinions are like assholes, we all have 'em and they all stink. Take care :)
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#8There might already be something out there that can help with this. I haven't tried it, but I've been meaning to: https://www.monicahq.com/
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#9I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD and this isn’t a particular weak spot for me but even I can relate. I find it most hard when there’s a mismatch in reciprocity. I enjoy learning from posts like this because it can help identify patterns I might not have otherwise noticed. From there I can do something. Something I do periodically is scroll my iMessages and see if there are conversations that have been dormant longe…
Nothing worse than a conversation about nothing for a pure sake of having a conversation. That's one of my anxiety triggers - pointless talks. People seem to demand them, even love them, yet there's me hating those accidental talks without a subject. Double my anxiety when the conversation suddenly stops, and there's nothing in my head to talk about.
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#10Spoiler alert: building up notifications from the reminding app will end up just like building up notifications from messengers. The author basically proxied notifications, which won't help him with his issues.