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Get Offended More (2020)

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Re: Get Offended More (2020)

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Post by fatherzine »

dgfitz wrote: post #2

Oof please don’t. Unless of course I can say that this very much offends me…

It's a tongue-in-cheek title. The author proposes something akin to cognitive behavioral therapy, to voluntarily seek out 'offending' situations to learn to behave in disagreement mode instead of offended mode.

Re: Get Offended More (2020)

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Post by DiscourseFan »

I really don't get offended by anything anymore.

I can get quite passionate in my discussions, but I don't take anything personally, and always welcome the opportunity for criticism. Though it is usually the ones who take offence who are the least able to criticize me.

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Post by progne »

I have a similar script in my head: Notice when I'm angry. Not, get angry more, but notice it, because it's pointing right at whatever I need to fix or learn from. For instance I've found that it usually arises from some failure to communicate, and has the result of making that problem worse ... until I notice and change course.

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Post by ur-whale »

TL;DR:

   - disagreeing and being offended aren't on the same level
   - getting offended is a good thing, it shows you care deeply about an issue, you should do it more
   - behaving like and ass***e because you're offended is not ok

Re: Get Offended More (2020)

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Post by ur-whale »

account-5 wrote: post #5

Seems to be a long way of saying to go get offended but not too offended.

> Seems to be a long way of saying to go get offended but not too offended.

Mmmh yeah, it's a little more than that. He suggest that being offended is OK, while taking unreasonable action because of said offense is not acceptable.

Re: Get Offended More (2020)

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Post by Barrin92 »

>A shitstorm ensued, the Church got shutdown-offended, and Galileo spent the rest of his life under house arrest. We’re so offended, we can’t even disagree, we shut shit down.

This is really bad history in a very relevant way to the topic. The Church wasn't really offended, they disagreed. The church in that case included most scientists at the time. This was because Galileo's theory didn't actually check out at all when he made the argument as it couldn't explain the observed sizes of most stars. This was because diffraction wasn't known yet as a principle. When he was challenged on this he basically wrote an entire tract that today would basically be considered a 'shitpost', where he insulted most scientists and church figures for pointing the problems with his theory out.

So it was actually Galileo who was offended, the Church who disagreed (and then was potentially also offended), and completely independent of this Galileo just happened to be right

Re: Get Offended More (2020)

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Post by behnamoh »

My progress began when I stopped putting up with some jerk professors in my department and decided to just do what I wanted to do. The moment I stopped justifying the way they were treating me I realized just what an unhealthy dynamic I had put up with. Maybe I needed to get seriously offended in order to completely be done with that.
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