What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?
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What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?
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#2Do I come from an alien universe where people in committed relationships still have friends?
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#3Do I come from an alien universe where people in committed relationships still have friends?
Propably. Also, I do consider my spouse to be a lot more than a spouse, you know like also a friend on top of everything else.
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#4Do I come from an alien universe where people in committed relationships still have friends?
Propably. Also, I do consider my spouse to be a lot more than a spouse, you know like also a friend on top of everything else.
i'm not saying you will - but you might be surprised about that friendship after you broke up.
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#5Euro perspective: sounds like an american problem of people moving halfway across the country instead of usually settling down nearby with their highschool friends doing mostly the same thing.
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#6Honestly, if my wife said I wasn't the number one person in her life then I would find that pretty disrespectful. She is my number one after all.
It seems like we've failed a whole generation of adults with good examples of what a relationship should be like.
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#7Kids are the center of your life. They are a lot easier (especially during the younger ages) to raise with a committed partner.
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#8Earlier quoted context omitted.
Propably. Also, I do consider my spouse to be a lot more than a spouse, you know like also a friend on top of everything else.
i'm not saying you will - but you might be surprised about that friendship after you broke up.
So far I lost more friends in my life than spouses, but I get your point. If it ever comes to that, I at least hope any break will be more or less amicable. No huge interest in finding out so!
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#9Honestly, if my wife said I wasn't the number one person in her life then I would find that pretty disrespectful. She is my number one after all. It seems like we've failed a whole generation of adults with good examples of what a relationship should be like.
I grew up in a religion where I am expected to love my wife to the point of torture and execution if it would protect her from harm (or at least, that’s the ideal).
I doubt any “platonic life-partner”…
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#10Euro perspective: sounds like an american problem of people moving halfway across the country instead of usually settling down nearby with their highschool friends doing mostly the same thing.
This is definitely a big factor.
Another big one is housing in America is very difficult to obtain, so even if you live in the same city as your friends, it's difficult to live near each other because people live in the houses they were able to get, and American cities are very sprawled out.
It's very common to have to drive 30+ minutes in different directions per friend, which makes spontaneous meetings difficult.