Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
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Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
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Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#2Um . . . it's not.
It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth?
Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods.
Boo! Boo!
/self throws rotten tomatoes
Boo!
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#3Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
What are you talking about?
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#4Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
What are you talking about?
I had to google 'allistic':
>For those unfamiliar, “allistic” refers to people who are not on the autism spectrum, and has become an increasingly popular term to help distinguish people from their autistic peers without using judgmental terms like “normal” in contrast to “autistic”.
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#5Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
Consider maybe it's as hard for them to tell the complete truth as it is for you to lie or obfuscate. A little empathy goes a long way. And despite stereotypes, neuroatypical people are capable of it.
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#6Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
We're concerned with social effects of saying the wrong thing.
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#7Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
I think you're right about the framework-constructing.
The social games that make insincerity natural come more intuitively to neurotypicals, so they don't notice they're playing them. When they do, and try to analyse themselves, I don't think they get it right often, because they don't have to build up an understanding of said games from the ground up like we do.
This article isn't based on anything really, it's some rules conjured out of nowhere to explain some anecdotes. Like you said, a framework for the falsehoods more than a tool to be more sincere.
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#8Um . . . it's not. It's just hard to understand what all those allistic people mean. Why do they say false things all the time and why is that socially normal? How is falsehood the acceptable norm but not truth? Things like this article try to construct frameworks for the falsehoods. Boo! Boo! /self throws rotten tomatoes Boo!
Can't help but link this timeless post: http://www.paulgraham.com/say.html
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#9Good luck in your search, Ammar. Thanks for sharing.
Re: Why it’s so hard to say what you mean
#10It seems the author may be on the verge of discovering vulnerability and openness. Opening yourself to others brings connection, empathy, humility, sincerity, and growth.
It does a good job of getting rid of the last vestiges of TFA’s I-V, too.
Of course, it can also be scary, but the rewards are tremendous.