How we turned the tables to catch my sister’s Bumble stalker
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How we turned the tables to catch my sister’s Bumble stalker
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#2TL;DR: Guy selling surveillance likes surveillance
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#3Maybe obvious, but uh: don’t fucking do this!
I get it, I'm an older brother, I would wanna go ballistic too. But the fact that these guys skipped over "notify the police" and went straight to "seek out in-person confrontation" is insane!
Stalkers are not people in their right mind. Staking out and planning to “citizen’s arrest”(???) someone who has repeatedly visited late at night to threaten and harass is NOT SAFE FOR ANYONE INVOLVED.
Do not ever physically escalate with a stalker! Collect evidence and get the authorities involved!
Re: How we turned the tables to catch my sister’s Bumble stalker
#4Maybe obvious, but uh: don’t fucking do this! I get it, I'm an older brother, I would wanna go ballistic too. But the fact that these guys skipped over "notify the police" and went straight to "seek out in-person confrontation" is insane! Stalkers are not people in their right mind. Staking out and planning to “citizen’s arrest”(???) someone who has repeatedly visited late at night to threaten and harass is NOT SAFE…
The part that jumped out was,
> we get ready to make a “citizen’s arrest”
That is so stupid. They are very lucky they didn't get the chance to try that.
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#5Truly, what compels a person to do such a thing? I too have struggled heavily with depression in the past, but I've never once felt the urge to repeatedly vandalize anyone's property.
Like, I just don't understand what's to gain.
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#6Those brothers are lucky this stalker was so meek. Things could have easily ended horribly.
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#7Maybe obvious, but uh: don’t fucking do this! I get it, I'm an older brother, I would wanna go ballistic too. But the fact that these guys skipped over "notify the police" and went straight to "seek out in-person confrontation" is insane! Stalkers are not people in their right mind. Staking out and planning to “citizen’s arrest”(???) someone who has repeatedly visited late at night to threaten and harass is NOT SAFE…
The problem is the cops tend not to give a shit.
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#8Maybe obvious, but uh: don’t fucking do this! I get it, I'm an older brother, I would wanna go ballistic too. But the fact that these guys skipped over "notify the police" and went straight to "seek out in-person confrontation" is insane! Stalkers are not people in their right mind. Staking out and planning to “citizen’s arrest”(???) someone who has repeatedly visited late at night to threaten and harass is NOT SAFE…
Citizens Arrests are very dangerous and pretty much never worth the risk. Even ignoring the many physical dangers of such an act, if the person “arrested” doesn’t get convicted (also pretty sure it has to be a felony conviction, at least here in MA, though IANAL), it opens you up to a false arrest, or possibly a false imprisonment, charge.
Re: How we turned the tables to catch my sister’s Bumble stalker
#9Maybe obvious, but uh: don’t fucking do this! I get it, I'm an older brother, I would wanna go ballistic too. But the fact that these guys skipped over "notify the police" and went straight to "seek out in-person confrontation" is insane! Stalkers are not people in their right mind. Staking out and planning to “citizen’s arrest”(???) someone who has repeatedly visited late at night to threaten and harass is NOT SAFE…
The problem is the cops tend not to give a shit.
I understand that. But you cannot assume they won't help. These guys didn't even try contacting the police before hatching a late-night scheme.
For what it's worth, in my (regrettably several) experiences with stalkers/harassers, this situation would have been taken extremely seriously.
"Masked guy repeatedly visits at night to write threatening messages on car of single woman living alone" is... about as explicit as you can get.
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#10Would have been better if we didn't have to hear about how great it was that she had three brothers. If she had three sisters into security I guess she would have been screwed?