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Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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the article doesn't seem attribute the desire to be alone to anything, other than saying that it got a lot more common during the pandemic, but I can say why I prefer to be alone: no judgement, no one makes fun of me, no one takes advantage of me, and no one steals from me.

the one and only bad thing for me is that being lonely sucks. I am not lonely, but I probably will be in a decade's time. being alone adds up over time.

there is no such thing as a "friend." there are only people who will pretend to be a partner or friend in order to make it easier for them to steal from you unnoticed.

people are a toxin and a terrible species of creature.

Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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There is absolutely no problem with spending time alone, I believe more people should move towards a place where being alone isn't anxiety inducing(easier said than done). Taking a walk alone(no headphones, just your thoughts), spending a couple hours reading a book, going to a restaurant and having a meal by yourself, working on a passion project...these things can be really liberating!

Instead our collective alone time is spent with faces stuck in phones and short form media content, as we constantly compare our lives to whatever the latest celebrity is doing, slowly numbing ourself to our own potential and uniqueness.

Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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Robert Putnam already explained why this is happening but since it's not an acceptable answer, we march on and pretend to be mystified.

Could you spell out more what you mean?

Presumably https://www.tesd.net/cms/lib/PA01001259/Centricity/Domain/11...

Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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the article doesn't seem attribute the desire to be alone to anything, other than saying that it got a lot more common during the pandemic, but I can say why I prefer to be alone: no judgement, no one makes fun of me, no one takes advantage of me, and no one steals from me. the one and only bad thing for me is that being lonely sucks. I am not lonely, but I probably will be in a decade's time. being alone adds up ove…

Why do you anticipate you will be lonely in a decade's time(but not currently)? And do you think you are a toxin based on your observation of the general species?

Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Could you spell out more what you mean?

Presumably https://www.tesd.net/cms/lib/PA01001259/Centricity/Domain/11...

Ironic given it’s from 1995. I assume the WaPo article imagines that was a golden age

Re: Americans are choosing to be alone, but we should reverse that

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the article doesn't seem attribute the desire to be alone to anything, other than saying that it got a lot more common during the pandemic, but I can say why I prefer to be alone: no judgement, no one makes fun of me, no one takes advantage of me, and no one steals from me. the one and only bad thing for me is that being lonely sucks. I am not lonely, but I probably will be in a decade's time. being alone adds up ove…

That is not a good world view. I imagine you've been through a lot to get to the point where you feel like that. Have you tried finding a friend group that has a mutual hobby to bond over?
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