Learning to Love Myself
blog.chaselambda.com
Learning to Love Myself
1–10 of 41 posts
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#2I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully?
Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#3I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully? Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an Amen!?"
- Rupaul
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#4This reads like deep depression.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#5I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully? Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an Amen!?" - Rupaul
Amen.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#6I heard a couple metaphors about this recently. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect to love others fully? Like an oxygen mask in an airplane or an emergency surgeon getting ready. You have to put yourself first so you don't harm others. Put the oxygen mask on first before helping others. Check your own pulse before jumping into a life saving surgery.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an Amen!?" - Rupaul
I don't agree in any way. In fact, it's normal to love others much more than you love yourself. This is easy to understand if you have parents or children.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#7For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience.
I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that aren’t right for me, or away from people who do not accept me for who I am is key to loving myself. The other path, to fear or avoid rejection is to prioritize destroying myself in the name of pleasing others, which is the opposite of self love.
Loving others involves accepting their variances from/conflicts with my important choices and being ok with that. Conversely, loving myself involves being ok with my important choices especially in the face of someone else rejecting me for said choices. IOW, accept me the way I am and the way I choose to grow, or kindly show yourself the door out of my life.
Again, this is an incomplete treatise on what self love is. I do however believe loving oneself is most important when it comes to dealing with others.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#8Earlier quoted context omitted.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an Amen!?" - Rupaul
I don't agree in any way. In fact, it's normal to love others much more than you love yourself. This is easy to understand if you have parents or children.
You love your parents more than you love yourself?
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#9Sometimes its hard.
Re: Learning to Love Myself
#10For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience. I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that ar…
> Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that aren’t right for me
I think this an important but incomplete statement. Rejection means that situation wasn't right for you but the question I have to ask myself every time is was it because I wasn't ready or good enough? If I get rejected from a job I really wanted, it would be easy to pat myself on the back and say "it wasn't a good fit" but the reality might be it wasn't a good fit because my skills weren't up to snuff. This is where having a kind inner voice helps. Don't avoid the reality that you need to improve but don't berate yourself.