Ask HN: Why do you think you have the tendency to criticize everything you read?

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Post by Aviatore » Mon, May 25, 2020, 3:49 PM UTC

Whenever I open the comments section in a place like HN, it is always bombarded with people finding minute details to criticize what someone wrote. It is nigh impossible to find individuals who manage to balance re-emphasizing some of the great points that an author spent hours/days writing coupled with maybe a few extra notes of their own or constructive criticism.

I have a few opinions on the subject which ranges from people being treated like that at work and finding a channel to 'pay back', not being able to put themselves in the other's shoes, feeling like everything is trying to sway them so they need to keep their guard up, feeling small in relation to the author and using comments to try to fill the gap.

Now fellow HNers, please tell me from your perspective, why do you think you have the tendency to criticize everything you read? Why do you think that is the best approach? Do talk to family members and colleagues the same way you talk on HN? How would you change your and other people's approach to create a growth minded environment?

Re: Ask HN: Why do you think you have the tendency to criticize everything you read?

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Post by codingdave » Mon, May 25, 2020, 4:24 PM UTC

I think that is a bit of an illusion --

Scenario 1: You see something that make a good point. You nod and move on... maybe upvote. But the result is that good points are quiet threads, and don't fill up the site with huge discussion because they simply made a point and left it at that.

Scenario 2: "Someone is wrong on the internet!" Downvote! Argue. Get upvotes for proving someone wrong. Busy threads, with higher emotion.

I don't think people come to HN to deliberately argue and criticize. But argumentative threads get more heated, are longer, and take up more of the discussions, and thereby have high visibility.

My personal approach it that I mostly only read the top 1-2 levels of any thread, and try to not go down negative rabbit holes.

Re: Ask HN: Why do you think you have the tendency to criticize everything you read?

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Post by seesawtron » Mon, May 25, 2020, 11:56 PM UTC

Both appreciation of the good aspects and criticism of the flaws is essential. The former is easier as the authors always make sure they mention them explicitly in their article so as to create more impact among the readers. Many times they DO NOT talk about the limitations to avoid criticism, hence you'd expect this comes from readers who are slightly outraged that the authors took them for a fool.