How sharing a bed changed my sleep (2017)
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How sharing a bed changed my sleep (2017)
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#2I've found this problem to shift later on in a relationship, where sleep quality actually _goes down_ when sleeping apart. Doesn't matter if it's a hotel room while traveling for work, or having my own bed to myself while my partner is out of town: my mind just can't stop obsessing that I _should_ be getting better rest because I have the bed all to myself, and as a result get hardly any rest at all! Thanks, brain!
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#3Did you record an improvement in sex data during the bed sharing experiment?
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#4I've found this problem to shift later on in a relationship, where sleep quality actually _goes down_ when sleeping apart. Doesn't matter if it's a hotel room while traveling for work, or having my own bed to myself while my partner is out of town: my mind just can't stop obsessing that I _should_ be getting better rest because I have the bed all to myself, and as a result get hardly any rest at all! Thanks, brain!
I found when my wife was in India for ~2 months I would stay up late watching YouTube videos / Netflix. In the evenings I found myself less sleepy in general. I also ate really bad food since cooking for one is miserable for me.
When I first started dating my now wife I slept better than I've ever slept before. All of my anxiety washed away and I felt incredibly content. Since then with buying a house, moving, job changes, owning cats, and a litany of other stressors, my sleep quality has substantially diminished. I don't attribute this to sharing a bed though. My wife rarely causes me to wake, neither of us really fidget in our sleep.
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#5Shows the quantity of sleep, but to make statements about quality, wouldn't you have to show the proportion of time spent in each stage of sleep at least?
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#6I’ve always been a pretty good sleeper. I’ve been going to bed at 22:00, fell asleep at 22:05, and woke up at 5:45 after sleeping like a rock.
When my gf and I moved together, this changed.
I still tried to go to bed at 22:00 but sometimes it was an hour later or so. My gf goes to bed between 23:00 and 00:00, which always woke me up. She also needed to go to the toilet once at night, which woke me up again.
But to be fair, when I got up in the morning she was waking up too because she could hear me showering.
When she was working a few hundred kilometres away for a month I noticed how much better my sleep was. That’s when I bought a second bed and moved to our guest room on work-days. Well, sometimes we want to cuddle and fall asleep together, but I’d say 9/10 work-days we’re sleeping in separate beds and it’s g r e a t.
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#7Can someone recommend a good sleep tracker?
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#8Discussed at the time: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14432177
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#9I’ve always been a pretty good sleeper. I’ve been going to bed at 22:00, fell asleep at 22:05, and woke up at 5:45 after sleeping like a rock. When my gf and I moved together, this changed. I still tried to go to bed at 22:00 but sometimes it was an hour later or so. My gf goes to bed between 23:00 and 00:00, which always woke me up. She also needed to go to the toilet once at night, which woke me up again. But to be…
An alternative would be using ear plugs and eye shade.
Re: How sharing a bed changed my sleep (2017)
#10I’ve always been a pretty good sleeper. I’ve been going to bed at 22:00, fell asleep at 22:05, and woke up at 5:45 after sleeping like a rock. When my gf and I moved together, this changed. I still tried to go to bed at 22:00 but sometimes it was an hour later or so. My gf goes to bed between 23:00 and 00:00, which always woke me up. She also needed to go to the toilet once at night, which woke me up again. But to be…
Separate beds FTW. Ideally in separate rooms in case winding-down-to-sleep routines are significantly different, in timing or form.