It’s Not You, It’s Me
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It’s Not You, It’s Me
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#2What an insightful perspective.
I have a pair of twins as sisters in law (who have a very different relationship than this pair) and even after more than 25 years of knowing them this article gave me insights about them.
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#3Click-bait headline? Check. Absolutely nothing to do with technology? Check.
How does this garbage end up here? This is not even news, it's just blog spam.
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#4Click-bait headline? Check. Absolutely nothing to do with technology? Check. How does this garbage end up here? This is not even news, it's just blog spam.
Since when is HN a news-only aggregator? The top story right now has a click-bait headline as well and is about octopodes.
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#5Great text. I identified with the theme. I have twins in the family. congratulations!
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#6Wow! I'm a twin and this is the first article I've read that really puts into words how I feel about it at times. Especially:
" Not coincidentally, twins are at strong risk of being objectified. First, we get reduced to our appearances: what matters most about us is how our bodies hit the senses. Second, we get treated as fungible: interchangeable with our fellow objects. Third, in many cases, our subjectivity is ignored. People don’t deny, exactly, that twins have rich and distinctive inner lives, just as sexists don’t deny, exactly, that hot young women do. But those lives often aren’t what’s interesting about us, and they’re easily glossed over. "
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#7Wow! I'm a twin and this is the first article I've read that really puts into words how I feel about it at times. Especially: " Not coincidentally, twins are at strong risk of being objectified. First, we get reduced to our appearances: what matters most about us is how our bodies hit the senses. Second, we get treated as fungible: interchangeable with our fellow objects. Third, in many cases, our subjectivity is ign…
My 4 year old daughters have a completely different life experience. They automatically have critical mass at school, and can use this to manipulate the singletons around them. They make people happy, but yeah, they are pointed at a lot too.
A lifetime of that means the twins are on a different plane of existence. We singletons can only imagine.
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#8Click-bait headline? Check. Absolutely nothing to do with technology? Check. How does this garbage end up here? This is not even news, it's just blog spam.
HN is about anything that gratifies intellectual curiosity. The site guidelines have been making that clear for well over ten years: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
If this article doesn't gratify your personal curiosity, that's fine; it has gratified others', as the comments show. Meanwhile, HN has other articles to read. Please investigate those instead of ranting off-topically in a thread you don't find interesting.
I don't think the title is clickbait. Not every title needs to explain itself immediately, and it's good for HN users to have to work a little. https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&qu...
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#9Click-bait headline? Check. Absolutely nothing to do with technology? Check. How does this garbage end up here? This is not even news, it's just blog spam.
HN is about anything that gratifies intellectual curiosity. The site guidelines have been making that clear for well over ten years: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html . If this article doesn't gratify your personal curiosity, that's fine; it has gratified others', as the comments show. Meanwhile, HN has other articles to read. Please investigate those instead of ranting off-topically in a thread you do…
What was the point? I don't know because I stopped reading after a few paragraphs.
Usually if there's no point after a few paragraphs, I look at the comments to see if it's worth reading.
In this case, nothing in the comments really explains what the point is.
So why does this article belong here? That's healthy discussion.
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#10Earlier quoted context omitted.
HN is about anything that gratifies intellectual curiosity. The site guidelines have been making that clear for well over ten years: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html . If this article doesn't gratify your personal curiosity, that's fine; it has gratified others', as the comments show. Meanwhile, HN has other articles to read. Please investigate those instead of ranting off-topically in a thread you do…
What was the point? I don't know because I stopped reading after a few paragraphs. Usually if there's no point after a few paragraphs, I look at the comments to see if it's worth reading. In this case, nothing in the comments really explains what the point is. So why does this article belong here? That's healthy discussion.
Curiosity doesn't always need a point! For example, details can sometimes be interesting.