Anxiety Looks Different in Men
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#2This surprises me as a male who suffers from anxiety and exhibits none of these symptoms.
To be more specific my anxiety manifests as a feeling of unease, sometimes fear; and at times blends in with OCD where I become unsure of my short term memory and whether or not something did or did not happen.
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#3That's because as men: We aren't allowed to be a worrier, anxious, etc.
We're expected to be confident and assertive. If we aren't then we possibly suffer rejection in relationships and we get socially isolated.
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#4That's because as men: We aren't allowed to be a worrier, anxious, etc. We're expected to be confident and assertive. If we aren't then we possibly suffer rejection in relationships and we get socially isolated.
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#5That's because as men: We aren't allowed to be a worrier, anxious, etc. We're expected to be confident and assertive. If we aren't then we possibly suffer rejection in relationships and we get socially isolated.
I don’t think that’s true. Some women like extremely assertive guys, but most don’t. Acting super insecure is a turn off, but acting super confident isn’t a turn on. The “be more confident!” advice that most guys have heard really means, “don’t act super nervous and insecure, just be yourself, even if you think you’re boring.”
And to all the guys thinking, “but if I’m just myself, nobody likes me.” Well, that’s probably not true (sounds insecure actually), but even if it is, that’s either a personal growth opportunity or a sign that they’ve been talking to the wrong women.
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#6Many anxious men (and women) aren't suffering from an anxiety disorder. Their anxiety is a perfectly reasonable response to the life they are living. I'm fine with therapy, meditation, and medication as long as they aren't used as tools to make it bearable to stay in a bad situation.
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#7That's because as men: We aren't allowed to be a worrier, anxious, etc. We're expected to be confident and assertive. If we aren't then we possibly suffer rejection in relationships and we get socially isolated.
I don’t think that’s true. Some women like extremely assertive guys, but most don’t. Acting super insecure is a turn off, but acting super confident isn’t a turn on. The “be more confident!” advice that most guys have heard really means, “don’t act super nervous and insecure, just be yourself, even if you think you’re boring.” And to all the guys thinking, “but if I’m just myself, nobody likes me.” Well, that’s proba…
> super insecure is a turn off,
That was part of what I meant when you become socially isolated as a result of it.
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#8That's because as men: We aren't allowed to be a worrier, anxious, etc. We're expected to be confident and assertive. If we aren't then we possibly suffer rejection in relationships and we get socially isolated.
I don’t think that’s true. Some women like extremely assertive guys, but most don’t. Acting super insecure is a turn off, but acting super confident isn’t a turn on. The “be more confident!” advice that most guys have heard really means, “don’t act super nervous and insecure, just be yourself, even if you think you’re boring.” And to all the guys thinking, “but if I’m just myself, nobody likes me.” Well, that’s proba…
> Some women like extremely assertive guys, but most don’t. [..] acting super confident isn’t a turn on.
The post you replied to didn't use the "extremely" or "super" adjectives.
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#9This surprises me as a male who suffers from anxiety and exhibits none of these symptoms. To be more specific my anxiety manifests as a feeling of unease, sometimes fear; and at times blends in with OCD where I become unsure of my short term memory and whether or not something did or did not happen.
I was only recently diagnosed with anxiety after spending thousands and thousands on an emergency room visit and visits to a cardiologist, and I work for a healthcare company with free access to GPs!
I had a variety of symptoms and none of them immediately seemed to shout "anxiety" to my physicians. I was given dozens of blood screenings, X-Rays, CT Scans, EKGs, Echocardiograms, stress tests, sleep studies, only to be told that my heart is in wonderful shape, and that all of my symptoms were probably anxiety (and after being put on Lexapro for several months, the bulk of the issues really seem to have resolved).
I was experiencing: chest tightness, left-side chest and arm pains, random dizziness, random feelings of disorientation, massive blood pressure spikes that would last for hours (110/70 -> 190/120), headaches, pressure in my left abdomen, heart palpitations, and several more very worrying symptoms.
At the end of the day, it all seemingly boiled down to a generalized anxiety disorder.
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#10Most sex differentiated medical stories which pop up in my feed tend to be about drug interactions in women being misunderstood because of the overtesting of males. That mental illness is mis-characterised in men, speaks to me of two things:
1) we haven't had a large enough war to produce the volume of war psychosis outcomes which correct for this and
2) women are tragically over-represented in all forms of mental illness profiles, which may relate to their real condition but also may relate to distortions in societal views of women and mental illness.