It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.
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It Doesn’t Count Unless I Know You’re Hitting on Me.
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#2Also, it doesn't count unless I know you're hitting on me.
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#3A male hit on her, in San Francisco. Context is everything, no? This is possibly amazing, but amazing enough to generate a blog post?
I've seen a lot of comments in social media from SF women stating that they can't get a guy to even look at them.
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#4A male hit on her, in San Francisco . Context is everything, no? This is possibly amazing, but amazing enough to generate a blog post? I've seen a lot of comments in social media from SF women stating that they can't get a guy to even look at them.
That's not what the post is about.
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#5A male hit on her, in San Francisco . Context is everything, no? This is possibly amazing, but amazing enough to generate a blog post? I've seen a lot of comments in social media from SF women stating that they can't get a guy to even look at them.
Context really is everything, which is why I found your comment misleading. The topic of her post is not that a male hit on her anywhere in San Francisco. What she's talking about is the fact that some male(s) interpreted exchanging of business cards as "giving out a phone number" which can then be used for personal reasons, such as hitting on her. Furthermore, she finds herself facing an interesting dilemma: she feels she can't be "harsh", because they're a business contact.
It is an interesting topic, at least for me: I'm male, so I haven't had to go through a situation like that and I don't have a clue how I would respond to something like that if I were in her shoes. Had I heeded your summary without reading the blog, I would've missed a mildly interesting topic.
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#6I'm a man and I've certainly questioned the intentions of quite a few women who "network.". I've also had questionable intentions with women I've networked with. So what? Flirting happens when sexes meet. Sometimes even more. If you want to close the door on that, say you have a boyfriend or your not interested in dating, or just don't flirt back. Otherwise you're the wuss for being unable to handle the facts of life. Disrespectful or overly persistent is another matter, but that doesn't seem to be the case.
A lot of people go to networking events to meet partners as well as network.
And American men are aggressive? Try Italian, Spanish, French, ...
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#7Two things:
1. You're a woman, and men will hit on you, and that's not a bad thing; it's biology.
2. If you think SF men are aggressive, then obviously you haven't been out much. I don't think I've been anywhere in the world that's LESS aggressive than SF when it comes to dating/mating. Go to Brazil and see what aggressiveness is.
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#8The article does come across as though she's acting very much the 'self-involved woman pirate whore' she's trying to avoid, but it's her site, her prerogative.
Casting that aside for a moment, biology happens. I'm a guy, married and have been hit on in the past (my best defence was to stop working out and put a few pounds on, hasn't been a problem since then although it may have introduced new problems which I'm now working on).
It's natural for men and women to flirt, to hit on each other in an attempt to achieve evolution's goal. It's what we're all wired for. However, having said that as long as boundaries are made clear it shouldn't be a problem.
I'd also like to say that I have both been 'that guy' and been hit on by 'that woman'. In both cases there are worse things in the world to worry about. In the case of 'that woman' I made a pretty good friend and business associate, in the case of being 'that guy', you chalk it up and move on, or in my case make friends with someone who you wouldn't have perhaps spoken to if you weren't initially attracted to.
I'd also second the context. A woman being hit on in SF is nothing like being hit in Cairo, Delhi or even Paris.
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#10I see her point, but I don't blame any of those guys. The hottest chick at the party is going to get hit on in every way possible and there is really nothing you can do about it. "My wallet's too small for my fifties and my diamond shoes are too tight."