How to Change Other People's Behavior

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Post by nwignall » Fri, Mar 15, 2019, 11:42 AM UTC

How to Change Other People's Behavior
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Re: How to Change Other People's Behavior

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Post by blastbeat » Fri, Mar 15, 2019, 12:43 PM UTC

Stopping to engage beyond a minimum of respect and politeness, that is, controlling their (emotional) reactions towards the client, is a standard tool of psychologists. I remember being all in tears during a session, and my therapist appeared unsettling unaffected. Instead of entering my self-pity, she appealed on my self-responsibility. It worked.

But try this to your wife. If she is clever, she will demand reinforcement. So instead of changing herself, she will just accuse you being impassive, unresponsive or insensitive.

Re: How to Change Other People's Behavior

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Post by nwignall » Fri, Mar 15, 2019, 1:35 PM UTC

blastbeat wrote: post #2

Stopping to engage beyond a minimum of respect and politeness, that is, controlling their (emotional) reactions towards the client, is a standard tool of psychologists. I remember being all in tears during a session, and my therapist appeared unsettling unaffected. Instead of entering my self-pity, she appealed on my self-responsibility. It worked. But try this to your wife. If she is clever, she will demand reinforc…

Notice I didn't give any examples with my wife in the article :)

Thanks for the comment!