Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
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Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#2Probably because helicopter parenting is in vogue (at least in the US). It is seriously messed up that you can have CPS called on you for letting your kid wander freely in the neighborhood
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#3Probably because helicopter parenting is in vogue (at least in the US). It is seriously messed up that you can have CPS called on you for letting your kid wander freely in the neighborhood
And yet people wonder why children grow up to be completely unprepared for the world...
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#41) What's the age range for children, here? All, 0-18? Something else?
2) Is this per kid or per parent? That is, do you get more "points" if you have three kids and spend an hour with all three than if you spend an hour with just one of them, or does it count the same? Per kid the latter'd be lower averaged over the three, per parent it's the same. Looks like it's per-parent but I'm not entirely sure.
[EDIT] notably, if it's per-parent, this doesn't necessarily mean kids are getting as much more total time with their parents as it might seem. Mom spending an hour, then dad spending an hour separately, is 2 hours of kid-with-at-least-one-parent time, but both parents at the same time for one hour is two parent-hours of time but only one hour of time-with-at-least-one-parent for the kid.
[EDIT EDIT] of course the other metric would be vulnerable to that too, I was sloppy. Point is I'd be curious how much time-with-any-parent for each kid went up over the same period.
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#5>One analysis of 11 rich countries estimates that the average mother spent 54 minutes a day caring for children in 1965 but 104 minutes in 2012. Men do less than women, but far more than men in the past: their child-caring time has jumped from 16 minutes a day to 59.
I spend 100+ minutes every day changing diapers. Actually that's not true, most of my time is spent trying to put the stupid newborn to go to sleep. I thought paternity leave was going to be chill and maybe I can learn a new hobby, master javascript, or travel to Europe. Nope, more stress than day job.
I think fatherhood is evolving too. My father's generation almost did nothing and that was acceptable. That is changing. One of the women in a dual income family says "Mom handles input, Dad handles output."
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#6Probably because helicopter parenting is in vogue (at least in the US). It is seriously messed up that you can have CPS called on you for letting your kid wander freely in the neighborhood
“we’ve morphed from being a village that helps raise children to a parenting police state,” -Petula Dvorak
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/free-range-kids-and-our...
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#7The problem is that 90% of the time the parents are now on their phones.
Seriously I find myself on my phone and not interacting with my kids at times and I am super sensitive about phones.
I don't allow phones during meals, during family time and not when someone is talking with you. I break my own rules a ton :(
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#8Probably because helicopter parenting is in vogue (at least in the US). It is seriously messed up that you can have CPS called on you for letting your kid wander freely in the neighborhood
I've read in some paper about Ice Cream Test:
Whether your 7 years old can get to the corner store and back after buying an ice cream there without encountering any dangers such as traffic.
Immediately thought that you could be jailed for that in some jurisdictions. Having said that, I think the number of people who let their kids free-range is decreasing everywhere unfortunately.
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#9Probably because helicopter parenting is in vogue (at least in the US). It is seriously messed up that you can have CPS called on you for letting your kid wander freely in the neighborhood
You won’t have CPS called on you for letting your children wander and play in the neighbor. Please don’t spread nonsense.
Edited with my response to everyone depositing articles about the Meitivs:
Nobody “called CPS on” the Meitivs. Somebody called the polic because they saw the children wandering around a parking garage (not a park like in many of the news stories. See [1].) The police officer then called CPS several times wondering what to do with children before finally driving over to CPS when they were dragging their heels[2]. [1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/free-range-family-again.... [2] Not that I think CPS is great. As a teacher, it’s basically impossible to get CPS to do anything unless the parents are abusing the children right in front of you on school property. Part of that is CPS being overworked and underfunded/understaffed. Part of that is that is it still usually better to keep the kids with their parents instead of foster care. And part of it is CPS not having the resources to have more options besides arrest parents or do nothing (like offering social services to the parents). Also I would argue there is a difference between letting your children play in the neighborhood outside your house and just leaving your children at the park for hours. I have had students who haven been abandoned at the park with their younger siblings.
Re: Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago
#10Wow! That's an amazing stat!