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My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by sillysaurus3 »

tbirrell wrote: post #3

Problem number one, that girl in the opening picture has a ring on her left hand. Perhaps try again with single girls?

Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized.

If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce. But the alternative is to be a slave to your partner's whims, if the marriage is sufficiently toxic and unsalvageable.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by smt88 »

sillysaurus3 wrote: post #4
tbirrell wrote: post #3

Problem number one, that girl in the opening picture has a ring on her left hand. Perhaps try again with single girls?

Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…

Regardless of the ethics, it's probably just not going to work out...

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by epmaybe »

sillysaurus3 wrote: post #4
tbirrell wrote: post #3

Problem number one, that girl in the opening picture has a ring on her left hand. Perhaps try again with single girls?

Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…

Even in that case, why wear the ring in the picture? Edit: On second look, that picture looks to be a stock photo, not one of the dates the author went on.

Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love

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Post by sillysaurus3 »

epmaybe wrote: post #7
sillysaurus3 wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…

Even in that case, why wear the ring in the picture? Edit: On second look, that picture looks to be a stock photo, not one of the dates the author went on.

Sure, if the relationship has reached that point, she probably wouldn't be wearing a ring. I'm just curious what everyone thinks.
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