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I've switched from Sublime Text 3 (native) to VSCode (Electron) and I couldn't be happier. If I didn't know it's electron based I wouldn't have been able to tell as a user. YMMV so don't generalise.
When did you switch? Atom was damned near unusable around 1.0, and VSCode was only a little better. The difference to now is night and day.
I just switched to VSCode last month and it's been as nice to use as ST3 (actually even nicer because ST3 didn't have any code intelligence).
I've also used IntelliJ (or rather WebStorm) several times over the years and it always felt too sluggish and obnoxious.
For the record: I'm on Linux and have 32 gigs of RAM. So maybe I have lower standards for memory use and performance.