Very much agreeing with Nietzsche on suffering being a great source of value, even desirable, for personal growth.
What to do when you’ve ruined your life
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#92You cannot fix a yesterday, but you can create a tomorrow, one small step at a time.
Acknowledge past mistakes,tuck away the experience and move forward
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#93It does not get better. There are only periods where you are too distracted to notice the finish line racing up fast.
Eventually, for EVERYONE, it absolutely gets worse. Someday every person you love or hate will be finally broken. The most happy and successful and the least. And you too.
For the most lucky that period of time is very short--sometimes only five or ten minutes. For others, much longer.
Your best days will be behind you at some point. Try not notice for as long as you can. That's the best you can do.
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#94When I was 23, I misdosed myself and took 110mg of 4-AcO-DMT. The experience was EXTREMELY traumatic and I believed I was dying. At one point I was so overstimulated I just lay on my kitchen floor convulsing uncontrollably. The next few days I didn't know what to do. My body would just shake, I couldn't sleep and I stayed up until I passed out for an hour, and then my shaking would wake up myself up again. I was over…
How did you end up overdosing like that? What's the story, there? Also, how disruptive is the visual snow on a day-to-day basis? And does it attenuate a bit over time?
> How did you end up overdosing like that? What's the story, there?
As someone who have over/under-dosed a couple of times when I was younger: dealer says they give you 100mg, so in order to take 25mg without having a scale, you divide it into two piles and then those two piles, take one of them.
Problem occurs when dealer fucked up somehow and actually gave you 200mg, so now you end up taking 50mg, double the intended dosage.
Other ways of fucking up is believing you got 2CB when actually you got 2CP, or something similar like that, so the dose you thought was light/moderate, ended up being a heavy one, or vice-versa. Hence you should always start smaller than you think and wait for some hours :)
I don't think I've ever overdosed at the scale that parent did, but it is possible to fuck up, especially without having accurate scales.
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#95I kind of ruined up my career some by taking an extended break to pursue other interests like depression and sleeping 12+ hours per day. What I didn't really factor into my choice was employers are scared of people who have the financial independence to take breaks like this because they cannot be relied on to be loyal wage slaves. I haven't found a great way to overcome this yet because I totally get their concerns.…
How much time did you spend pursuing those new “hobbies”?
I would imagine saying you took some time off for your mental health would be totally fine, I’d have no problems saying that or hiring someone who said that.
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#96My best friend from high school did 20 years in prison. He was one of the first people sentenced under Missouri's "3 strikes" sentencing guidelines. He got out a few years ago. He told me, for him, rock bottom was when he heard the judge throw 20 years at him. He didn't think it would happen for such petty crimes (stealing pawnable junk out of people's garages) and his cooperation with the police. But when it happened, he knew they weren't gonna blink; he was gonna do the full 20 years. He did. He also told me that his entire time in prison was actually a gift. He got his life back together. He kicked his drug habits. He finished high school. Got a college degree. And got his own business started training service dogs. He told me the key, for him, to restarting his life was simply not being bitter about his bad situation. He blamed only himself, and decided to dig himself out.
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#97It does not get better. There are only periods where you are too distracted to notice the finish line racing up fast. Eventually, for EVERYONE, it absolutely gets worse. Someday every person you love or hate will be finally broken. The most happy and successful and the least. And you too. For the most lucky that period of time is very short--sometimes only five or ten minutes. For others, much longer. Your best days…
That seems extremely pessimistic, and is not "the truth", just your opinion.
Personally, my life really sucked until I was around 16 years old, that's when my life started turning around. Since then, my life have just become better and better every single year, even though I've messed up or others around me messed up. Maybe my view changed, or maybe I'm just getting to know myself better the longer I live, but I see no similarities between what you write, and how my life is.
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#98Earlier quoted context omitted.
> there’s another option that I’m not going to mention by name I don't know if you're suggesting one should commit suicide, or if you're talking about something else entirely.
It's suicide. If the only options before you are worse than death, then it becomes more appealing. I think I'd take death over a life sentence.
I would personally choose living in every scenario I can think of. Even agonizing pain is still better then the nothingness that’s waiting forever.
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#99It does not get better. There are only periods where you are too distracted to notice the finish line racing up fast. Eventually, for EVERYONE, it absolutely gets worse. Someday every person you love or hate will be finally broken. The most happy and successful and the least. And you too. For the most lucky that period of time is very short--sometimes only five or ten minutes. For others, much longer. Your best days…
That seems extremely pessimistic, and is not "the truth", just your opinion. Personally, my life really sucked until I was around 16 years old, that's when my life started turning around. Since then, my life have just become better and better every single year, even though I've messed up or others around me messed up. Maybe my view changed, or maybe I'm just getting to know myself better the longer I live, but I see…
Come back and reply again when you're 75yrs old.
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#100I don't need a zoomer that did drugs for the first time telling me what he did when he first "ruined his life". Because he doesn't know anything.