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My accusation is that the conversation memory works the same way as the BBQ party memory. You remember a skeleton. This subject was discussed, and things were said that gave me a feeling of ____. And a few more easily compressed details. The rest is interpolated. Imagine a language model the size of GPT-3 being trained on one particular person's manner of speaking and then given a one-paragraph summary of a conversat…
I should add that as a geek I ought to have a better ability to remember, say, computer code that I've written. But am I the only one who, going back to something I haven't touched for two years, has to re-learn my own code?
No, that is perfectly normal, and it starts much earlier, weeks sometimes days after leaving the code. Depending on its complexity and level of its abstraction.
You mentally build something highly abstract without much emotional or bodily bond. Your brain has not much incentive to rememeber it.