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I think you're making a wrong comparison here. Disappearing messages is not akin to forcing the other party to take memory-suppressant drugs (wtf?), it's more akin to asking them not to record your conversation.
If you remember something in your brain, you have recorded it. Electronic records are only different in scale/capability and guaranteed perfect recall.
I would find it odd if someone were writing down everything I said. I already find it quite strange when I write something (on Signal or similar), and the person responds with a quote-reply of something I said years ago. "But I thought you wanted to visit Moscow?" or even "I'm sure you said you wanted to visit Moscow" are quite different from "here's the message you sent on 2019-02-05 at 14:32 telling me you wanted to visit Moscow".