I need a relationship and it doesn't come easy when you are brown gay living in a white country.
Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?
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#92I am willing to work on something if and only if either of the following holds:
1) I find it interesting 2) It is important to my family.
Re: Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?
#93You can put more effort in and potentially make more money. You can not make more time, no matter how hard you try. You can pay someone to do something to free up a portion of your time, which you can then use as you see fit. You need to prioritize how you spend your time. This is not a one-time exercise. It's an ongoing process. You look at the things that you do in a given day, week, month, and year. You see how th…
Don't give up on tomatoes! You say that they do need maintenance, but you plant them, water them, give them sun - I bet you can automate a lot these steps - watering and nutrition, for example. You can give them extra boost with some artificial light and heat. You can do it!
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#94Ideas are cheap, execution is everything. Product-market fit is hard. Keeping razor focus is harder. Excercise, good sleep, and healthy food pay big dividends. Don't bother disagreeing with people on social media. Finally: I can build way more things than I thought I could 12 months ago.
Train yourself to see and accept the truth.
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#95when you feel it is time to move, move fast and don't wait X more months to confirm it and make sure of it 100%. (talking about job here more specifically)
Life is short, there is no time for procrastination for a shitty job, relation or anything else that doesn't bring you anything anymore
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#96I need a relationship and it doesn't come easy when you are brown gay living in a white country.
Why do you "need" a relationship?
Generally, I'd advice on being so comfortable with yourself that you don't ever feel like you "need" a relationship.
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#97Business is business. Don't expect managers//companies to be fair with you. If they can get away with an easy lie, they will.
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#98Life is short, so work on things that matter.
People you love can be gone tomorrow.
You too - so prepare for that.
You don't make friends at job, you will be fired as soon as they notice you have some family problems influencing your work. There will be no talking, no asking anything... and then your "friends" will silently agree with everything the manager does.
Read more - it really helps with anything you will do.
Write more - get a pen and a notebook, not a computer.
People will disagree with the brightest and most true thing you will write - just don't care as soon as what you wrote is true.
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#99I fail two interviews one is from Google and one is from Facebook. now I am rethinking about my ability towards coding and algorithms.
I got rejected by Google even though I thought my coding interview went well. I bombed the interview with Amazon and somehow they gave me an offer as an SDE1 even though I wasn't a fresh grad and had 3 years experience. My director refers to me as a rock star. My total comp this year is just north of $240K. I was promoted about 13 months in. I'm told repeatedly I'm one of the top engineers in my org and admired and r…
As a manager, I recommend everyone to internalise this idea from the parent post: sometimes the quickest career, and being promoted earlier, might not the best path long term.
The "first impression" that the parent created is a powerful image that can burn in the brain of the surrounding people and follow him throughout his career, in exchange for perhaps 1 year lag in "official" experience and remuneration during 1 or 2 years early in his career. On the other hand, being promoted too early and fucking up can unfortunately have an analogous effect, and throw a career overboard.
This is not fair, but people's brain work like that.
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#100Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company. This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she's not coming, and said "I took a gamble and lost. I never thought you would actually get an offer". Now she's refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she's living in on the east coas…
Just don't care about the career. Be happy. Rethink if you can be with this woman you cannot trust anymore. Life is much more than just a nice job.