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Ask HN: Advice to your younger self
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#92Don’t believe your thoughts. The voice in your head sounds like your voice but that doesn’t make it yours. Trust your inquisitive nature and question things., people and choices, especially if they feel off. Most people fake it, most of the time. Remember what your inner compass feels like. Use that feeling. Remember that you exist. Anyone who tries to sell you your own divinity is a scammer. Anyone who tries to defi…
I don't usually find anything I haven't heard before in this genre of thread, but these are some profound ideas. Thank you! > There are many, many awesome people living in integrity, creating with open hearts and rich imagination. You can be one of them; the easiest way is to join their communities and friendships. This is what I struggle with the most. (As do many others in my generation, I think.) How does one disc…
Dwell in this question while noticing the people around you. Approach the ones you truly admire (not the ones you envy).
One in n will be open to a conversation. Feed the relationships that give you the space to be yourself and seem to want from you the contributions you love giving. Being yourself means being vulnerably honest with the aspects of yourself which you don’t yet love. I think that’s most obvious with artists.
And please give it time. Took a decade to have some of my acquaintances get distilled in into friendships.
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#93You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with - choose them wisely.
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#94Chill bro. There's no need to hurry
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#951 - Don't be afraid to follow your passion
2 - Never too early or late to start a fitness regime
3 - Don't Over-plan
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#96Study math for real and get rid of H.Pylori. Would've been sweet.
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#97You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with - choose them wisely.
I have sort of followed this idea in a different way. I think TF might have said this, but I think he got it from someone else.
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#98Earlier quoted context omitted.
I don't usually find anything I haven't heard before in this genre of thread, but these are some profound ideas. Thank you! > There are many, many awesome people living in integrity, creating with open hearts and rich imagination. You can be one of them; the easiest way is to join their communities and friendships. This is what I struggle with the most. (As do many others in my generation, I think.) How does one disc…
Dwell in this question while noticing the people around you. Approach the ones you truly admire (not the ones you envy). One in n will be open to a conversation. Feed the relationships that give you the space to be yourself and seem to want from you the contributions you love giving. Being yourself means being vulnerably honest with the aspects of yourself which you don’t yet love. I think that’s most obvious with ar…
I think at a much younger age I had more flexibility and time to do this. I still think it is a worthy pursuit.
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#99Actually: nothing.
I would want my younger self to struggle, experience, learn and grow just the way I did. With my current knowledge I would create a rich MoFo who would be clueless but "respected" for no other reason then being rich.
So to the younger me: go fuck yourself thinking this is going to be easy.
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#100The time window to have children is pretty small (life is short), and while men don't have a 'bio-clock' like women, if the man waits too long he might have to find a woman a decade or more younger (which is not how you dream about it growing up)
> The time window to have children is pretty small (life is short)
You've got roughly from your mid 20s to your late 40s to have kids 'responsibly', is that really a small window? Or are you perhaps (incorrectly imho) simply feeling that you've missed out on parenthood even though you're still fully capable of being a great parent?
Our youngest of 3 is 19 months old, and we're in our early to late 40s (i'm not saying which of us is which), and yes - certain things were harder this time vs 10 years ago (100% sleep related things).
On the other hand, there are a ton of things that were way easier this time around - we're both more patient, have more realistic expectations of each other, and we've found a much greater capacity to enjoy her 'baby-ness'.
And finally, don't under any circumstances rule out adoption. I cried more at the final adoption hearing than I did at the births of either of the first two. It's a slightly different bond, but by God it's no less strong...