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Re: Crying

#91

Post by Jemmeh »

donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

Cool to read someone else is the same way! My eyes have always watered when I laugh, when I'm really happy, or just excited about something.

What gets annoying is when I'm even slightly upset or having a disagreement with someone, my eyes want to water. I'm not even that upset, my eyes are just freaking out. I always have to be like, "I'm not that upset or trying to make you feel bad, my eyes are dumb, sorry, let's keep talking."

Re: Crying

#92

Post by darkstalker »

tbabb wrote: post #41

I had no idea that people cry this much. It's like pulling back a curtain.

Same. I haven't cried since i was a little kid in the 90's. I've always found strange when people cry at movies and such.

Re: Crying

#93

Post by SyneRyder »

MicroBerto wrote: post #69
donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

I have found that emotional stoicism elicits are far greater response in nearly all people. Emotional people are unpredictable, and unpredictability is a turn-off for most rational and stable people (who I like to surround myself with). Depending on your goals in life, being "the rock" typically gets you better long-term social results.

I disagree. I have a friend who is occasionally weepy, but often they cry with joy rather than sadness. They can see something beautiful and appreciate its beauty so deeply that it causes them to shed a tear of happiness. It's a wonderful thing to see. It's like they're more attuned to beauty that I can't perceive. Like how a high-sensitivity radio receiver can detect very faint signals that others can't.

People are different. Some people like to follow the same routine and be very stoic and are content with that. Others would rather explore and experience variety and new things and ride the peaks & troughs. Both have advantages & disadvantages.

Steve Jobs was known for crying often, so being emotional and successful can certainly go together.

http://arstechnica.com/apple/2011/11/why-steve-jobs-cried/

Re: Crying

#94

Post by Snargorf »

She wrote, "Retrospection involved re-categorizing things that happened to me and re-evaluating past actions and decisions, which led me to feel ashamed, slighted, or self-pitying (I became a feminist during the time I was logging, and I reacted strongly to injustices that I became aware of)."

So becoming a feminist literally made her cry.

Meanwhile, at the other end of the spectrum, the happiest demographic in America is conservative married women.

Why are progressive politics are such an engine of grief? Why is a belief system that creates a feeling of persecution where none existed before so popular? It's an interesting question to which I have no easy answer.

Re: Crying

#95

Post by mundo »

donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

This started happening to me the moment my wife got pregnant with our first kid. Before that, even tear-jerker news stories didn't affect me; now, I get choked up over anything (but especially over hopeful science news stories - the Philae lander, possible breakthroughs in solar power, that kind of thing).

My wife makes fun of me for it too, but then I make fun of her for lots of stuff, so that's fair.

Re: Crying

#96

Post by auganov »

Since everyone is talking about their crying habits - I have this very annoying tendency to get teary eyed/cry when having intense discussions with some people. Especially if there's any hint of negativity in it. Awkward for obvoius reasons. So I just tend to avoid these.

Re: Crying

#97

Post by an_ko »

Snargorf wrote: post #94

She wrote, "Retrospection involved re-categorizing things that happened to me and re-evaluating past actions and decisions, which led me to feel ashamed, slighted, or self-pitying (I became a feminist during the time I was logging, and I reacted strongly to injustices that I became aware of)." So becoming a feminist literally made her cry. Meanwhile, at the other end of the spectrum, the happiest demographic in Ameri…

Being emotionally invested in the well-being of others has its costs, especially when looking deeper into things exposes you to injustice you could have ignored before.

Re: Crying

#98

Post by MicroBerto »

cylinder wrote: post #81
MicroBerto wrote: post #68

Notice how many cries are due to relationship-based issues. You are putting yourself at serious emotional risk if you allow your happiness to be driven by another person, regardless of who it is. IMHO, your emotional success should be based upon things you can control, and if it's not, then you need to make more rapid decisions as to who or what is allowed to take part in your life.

Citation needed. You seem to be quite certain that control is the means to happiness yet have not offered any reason to believe this.

Not control over other people, but control over situations that put you in an emotional state -- where possible, at least. Death is one thing we can't control.

Also, I'm not sure if you know what IMHO means, but it stands for "in my humble opinion". I don't need a citation to have opinions, I have wisdom and experience. And they've shown time and time again that people who put a majority of their emotional state in other peoples' hands are quite often disappointed and live messy, uncontrolled lives.

Re: Crying

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Post by wdmeldon »

MicroBerto wrote: post #68

Notice how many cries are due to relationship-based issues. You are putting yourself at serious emotional risk if you allow your happiness to be driven by another person, regardless of who it is. IMHO, your emotional success should be based upon things you can control, and if it's not, then you need to make more rapid decisions as to who or what is allowed to take part in your life.

One thing I noticed is that the breakup basically drowned out all the other triggers for crying.

Re: Crying

#100

Post by _RPM »

After staying up for 3 days straight coding with caffeine, I had a cry spell. It was like a religious experience.
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