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The upstream cause of the youth mental health crisis is the loss of community

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Re: The upstream cause of the youth mental health crisis is the loss of community

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Was just talking with a friend about this. The reason older people tend to play repetitive card games isn’t because they are captivating, it is just a thin excuse to spend a few relaxing hours together. After a few months of hesitation I’ve gotten some of my friends into playing simple games like euchre and hearts and the quality of our time together has gone up significantly.

IDK that hasn't been my experience. When I've gotten together with people to play euchre it's always people who are super competitive about it, get annoyed if you misplay a hand, and don't talk about anything except how good or bad their last hand was.

That's my experience as well. In my opinion, "social" board games are always an excuse for the people who propose it to "dominate" others in an activity they don't do as often and don't care about much.

They call it socializing but it is always a type of problematic socialisation because it always ends up hypercompetitive and solely focused on the game. We know humans can't truly multi-task and this is true for games too, so what happens is that as the game progresses everyone is increasingly focused on its strategy and no real conversation about anything else happens. I think it is actually a crutch for people that are not that interesting to begin with and prefer to retort to this sort of activity (passive-agressive competitiveness built-in) instead of cultivating something interesting to talk about with other peoples.

I'm all for socialisation by talking or doing shared activities with a common goal, but games and to an extent sports are really more trouble than they are worth most of the time...

Re: The upstream cause of the youth mental health crisis is the loss of community

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"In it, he argued that to restore the play-based childhood, we must first rebuild strong in-person local communities." Churches! It is perfect, gives community, hope and a purpose. And the Christian way to live and be is a very good model.

Re: The upstream cause of the youth mental health crisis is the loss of community

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IDK that hasn't been my experience. When I've gotten together with people to play euchre it's always people who are super competitive about it, get annoyed if you misplay a hand, and don't talk about anything except how good or bad their last hand was.

That's my experience as well. In my opinion, "social" board games are always an excuse for the people who propose it to "dominate" others in an activity they don't do as often and don't care about much. They call it socializing but it is always a type of problematic socialisation because it always ends up hypercompetitive and solely focused on the game. We know humans can't truly multi-task and this is true for games…

Sounds to me like you are maybe the competitive one. It could be that you are friends with board-gaming sociopaths but in my life I have met only one person who I think would propose a board game just because they could win at it.

Re: The upstream cause of the youth mental health crisis is the loss of community

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I don’t disagree completely but I think one could argue that while we had that threat, the government and people were in agreement that it was a problem to be addressed. The equivalent today would probably be the United States having a few token nuclear weapons, the Soviet Union stockpiling nuclear weapons, and 30% of the country largely in charge denying that the Soviet Union even exists. The latter scenario is prob…

There were plenty of people denying that the Soviets and communism at large was a threat.

Not in any important ways. The mainstream of the US and the entire government was focused on the Soviet Union as an existential threat.
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