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Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by chillacy » Tue, May 03, 2022, 5:20 AM UTC

dlevine wrote: post #311

I'm a bit over 5'8". I always suspected that online dating was a bit more challenging because of my height. But when I looked at the numbers, I was doing fine at getting dates. The problem was actually that I wasn't confident enough on dates and didn't really know what I wanted, so the dates rarely went anywhere. I did a lot of personal development work over a period of 10+ years. At some point, dating got a lot easi…

Just throwing out there that waiting 10 years tends to make dating easier for a man regardless of whatever else you do. I remember this in the okCupid data showing that women’s match numbers start highest at 18 and go down over time.

Not that working on oneself isn’t good for so many reasons.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by jjeaff » Tue, May 03, 2022, 5:46 AM UTC

smt88 wrote: post #9

jjeaff wrote: post #7

Seems like such an extreme surgery for a few inches. I would think that a treatment as extreme as this should require at least attempted psychiatric treatment before going to full on broken femurs. But maybe an inch can make much more difference than I think. I am literally one inch taller than this guy and I cannot ever in my life remember someone calling me short or disparaging me for my height. I do agree that bei…

> I would think that a treatment as extreme as this should require at least attempted psychiatric treatment before going to full on broken femurs. Isn't this true of any cosmetic surgery? They all carry some amount of expense, pain, and risk. > I do agree that being a little bit taller would be an advantage in many ways. I suspect that most people who get this surgery are thinking mostly about their ability to date w…

Yes, probably for a lot of cosmetic surgery. But even something as invasive as a facelift or breast augmentation doesn't seem nearly as extreme and chiseling through the femur bone and inserting expanding metal pistons.

Most other cosmetic surgeries don't have the risk of making you unable to walk.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by harambae » Tue, May 03, 2022, 1:22 PM UTC

leksak wrote: post #564

screye wrote: post #467

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Trying to play a broken game honestly, is a losing proposition. Social taboos get established to keep the winners winning. Go find yourself a gold digger. It is fine. Maybe go date women in cultures where 5.6 is not too short. Hell, I'd say that a mail order bride (more likely an economic refugee who appreciates your wealth) is still better than dying alone. It is a brutally objectifying system and you have to play t…

Getting a mail-order bride seems inherently abusive somehow

Someone is going to have to define, a little more explicitly, what a mail-order bride is, since the actual catalogues which inspired this term haven't existed in 2 decades.

Meeting any partner who isn't currently a US Citizen if you are is abusive? Meeting any partner who was born of lower economic status than you is abusive?

I'm an American man engaged to a foreign woman and am familiar with all of this - including negative stereotypes of cross-border relationships that in any other area (race, gender, orientation) would long since be considered deeply bigoted and unacceptable.

Re: Limb lengthening surgery is becoming more popular

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Post by ichugwindex » Tue, May 03, 2022, 3:57 PM UTC

nosefrog wrote: post #13

As a 5'5" guy, no one ever calls me short, and when I joke about being short my friends tell me that they don't perceive me as short unless I'm joking about it, so I stopped haha.

This has been my experience as well. Actually the only ones who have ever commented on height in general were women.

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Post by skeptikal » Wed, May 04, 2022, 3:13 AM UTC

jseban wrote: post #692

skeptikal wrote: post #361

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Its not the height, its the strut. Online women cant see you strut so heights the proxy. My wife's cousin’s 5’6’’ but Ive seen women go up to him and strike a conversation by the way he walks. Ive been in parties where he’s nailed every girl (including sisters and wives) in the room. Me? Nothing much, and Im 6’2’’

Strut? Who are you, Mick Jagger?

Im someone who doesn't strut. My cousin in law has the walk, quick smile, devil may care laugh

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Post by kingkawn » Thu, May 05, 2022, 12:57 PM UTC

rayiner wrote: post #732

kingkawn wrote: post #678

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Yeah but then you have to live with a conservative.

I think lots of “liberal” guys would be happier in a conservative environment,[1] with the greater social structure and narrower horizons of conservative society. If what you really want is to settle down, have kids, and live a normal life, you might be making yourself unhappy trying to hack it in the NYC or SF's dating market--which is full of ambitious, individualistic people who aren't placing a high priority on t…

Lol at the emergence of all these archetypes about the dating market etc. you’re not out buying consumable goods; you’re looking for people to spend time with and enjoy each other’s presence. Everytime I hear people complaining about this it is always transparently clear from their own words that they are the problem. Conservative environments are not a plus, but instead a reservoir of retrograde perspectives and unimaginative implementations of false concepts of historical precedent. The lamest approach.

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Post by inkblotuniverse » Sun, May 15, 2022, 10:54 AM UTC

afr0ck wrote: post #772

inkblotuniverse wrote: post #652

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This is me spitballing. Take with salt. Men start off mostly worthless by default from a dating perspective, and gain attractiveness as they gain money and status. So, make money and gain prestige. Pretty-boys who peak in high school are the exception. Women peak in physical attractiveness to men as soon as they mature. Emotional maturity plays a role in attractiveness, and that generally improves over time, so peak…

This is one way, but I don't think it's the only way. I believe it is worth to explore other options and you get double benefits: the woman and any other attribute that helped you get the woman in the first place, being it confidence, humour, style, fitness, or any other thing. It's hard but I believe it's also good to give it a shot.

I don't disagree, money is just one dimension of the whole edifice. I guess I'd distinguish between depreciating and appreciating assets: youthful beauty is fleeting, so in terms of long-term payoff a man's better off cultivating the 'hot dad' look, so that their attractiveness peaks between 30-50. Confidence, humour, are good things to build up that stick around- I'd wrap that all up in 'your personality', which I agree is good to cultivate. I'd guess it's roughly equally important as your financial situation (and the two are intertwined/interdependent to some degree).

Lastly, fitness is a red queen's race, kind of like aging; time works against you, and the worse your body gets the harder it is to get fit (fitness protects against a lot of chronic problems that make exercise harder) so there's never a better time to get/stay fit than now.

TL:DR; I agree that everything you mentioned is inherently valuable and will also help you get women, so long as we don't forget money and competence!