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Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by xyzelement »

CincinnatiMan wrote: post #46
xyzelement wrote: post #16

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I would have agreed with this a few years ago but it's more nuanced than that. Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. For example we have small kids and it's just not going to happen that I am going to tell my wife on a given morning or evening "take care of them while I go on a hike" or whatever. So on days they I decide to go to the office - I get about 2 hours (one hour each way) of…

Sounds like your wife needs to be more accommodating or understanding. My spouse understands decompression time and enables it, despite me working remotely.

My wife is awesome and if I said "I need x" I would have it.

But reality is I am never gonna ask for that in the moment. The idea of a "forcing function" being beneficial is not new.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by xyzelement »

IAmBroom wrote: post #76
xyzelement wrote: post #16

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I would have agreed with this a few years ago but it's more nuanced than that. Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. For example we have small kids and it's just not going to happen that I am going to tell my wife on a given morning or evening "take care of them while I go on a hike" or whatever. So on days they I decide to go to the office - I get about 2 hours (one hour each way) of…

> I think many dads that are my fellow commuters see the commute as a sort of sacred solo space that's hard to maintain otherwise You said the quiet part out loud: During your commute you force your female partner to do more of the work tending kids and doing household chores. I agree that many dads enjoy this privileged escape of parenting duties.

I have never seen anyone with an actual spouse/family look at their partner and relationship through this weird adversarial-gender-struggle lens implied in your question.

It's hilarious to think that my wife would begrudge me a commute (I have to go to work) just because I am able to see something positive in it - anymore than I would resent my wife for having gone part time at work and placing more economic "burden" on me.

What you and your perspective are missing is that real families have a shared goal (raise the family) and the difference people flex in to make it happen.

If my wife texts me that the kids are down and she's going to bed early - while I am stuck at the airport because a work flight is 7 hours delayed - I am happy for her, not seeing this as cause for some insane resentment.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by xyzelement »

exe34 wrote: post #35
xyzelement wrote: post #16

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I would have agreed with this a few years ago but it's more nuanced than that. Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. For example we have small kids and it's just not going to happen that I am going to tell my wife on a given morning or evening "take care of them while I go on a hike" or whatever. So on days they I decide to go to the office - I get about 2 hours (one hour each way) of…

It's interesting that the only way your wife will let you have some time to yourself is if you're spending it commuting.

You misread. It doesn't occur to me to "ask for a break" in the moment with the kids, so the commute is a nice forcing function.

I feel like this is a 100% shared experience for people in actual families vs people looking in from the outside trying to interpret.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by xyzelement »

mschuster91 wrote: post #30
xyzelement wrote: post #16

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I would have agreed with this a few years ago but it's more nuanced than that. Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. For example we have small kids and it's just not going to happen that I am going to tell my wife on a given morning or evening "take care of them while I go on a hike" or whatever. So on days they I decide to go to the office - I get about 2 hours (one hour each way) of…

> Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. That assumes you can meaningfully decompress. In a car, it's almost impossible (or at the very least, reckless) if you are the driver, and on most crowded stop-and-go routes even as a passenger. In any kind of public transit you have to deal with anything from rowdy children over beggars, drunks, thieves and other undesirables to keeping up with…

Maybe people have a different nervous system than I do but I find that people driving/stuck in traffic can easily enjoy a podcast and that driving takes no significant conscious effort most of the time.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by exe34 »

xyzelement wrote: post #83
exe34 wrote: post #35

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It's interesting that the only way your wife will let you have some time to yourself is if you're spending it commuting.

You misread. It doesn't occur to me to "ask for a break" in the moment with the kids, so the commute is a nice forcing function. I feel like this is a 100% shared experience for people in actual families vs people looking in from the outside trying to interpret.

No, I think the other posts in the thread show that the experience is not universal.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by xyzelement »

exe34 wrote: post #85
xyzelement wrote: post #83

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You misread. It doesn't occur to me to "ask for a break" in the moment with the kids, so the commute is a nice forcing function. I feel like this is a 100% shared experience for people in actual families vs people looking in from the outside trying to interpret.

No, I think the other posts in the thread show that the experience is not universal.

I feel like many of the posts are like hypothetical "if I had a wife and kids this is what I would tell her" - hard to tell if any of these people are actual parents.

You got kids, exe34?

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by mschuster91 »

xyzelement wrote: post #84
mschuster91 wrote: post #30

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> Commute time is built-in decompression time that can be very valuable. That assumes you can meaningfully decompress. In a car, it's almost impossible (or at the very least, reckless) if you are the driver, and on most crowded stop-and-go routes even as a passenger. In any kind of public transit you have to deal with anything from rowdy children over beggars, drunks, thieves and other undesirables to keeping up with…

Maybe people have a different nervous system than I do but I find that people driving/stuck in traffic can easily enjoy a podcast and that driving takes no significant conscious effort most of the time.

> but I find that people driving/stuck in traffic can easily enjoy a podcast

Yeah... and this misconception "it's just stop and go" is a top contributor in accidents because people just don't take care about what is going on in front of them.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by exe34 »

xyzelement wrote: post #86
exe34 wrote: post #85

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No, I think the other posts in the thread show that the experience is not universal.

I feel like many of the posts are like hypothetical "if I had a wife and kids this is what I would tell her" - hard to tell if any of these people are actual parents. You got kids, exe34?

Oh yes, everything changes when you have kids. You can't negotiate with your wife, you need to trap her into doing what you want.

Re: Defending my own brain against enshittification

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Post by mapontosevenths »

phoghed wrote: post #21
mapontosevenths wrote: post #20

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AI music makes my head feel like I'm wearing noise cancelling headphones. That sort of weird 'pressure' sensation. It's as if even the silent bits are still pushing on my eardrums. I can spot it instantly and I hate it. Gemini speculated that it might have to do with the AI not mimicking the audios phase properly.

You’re hearing the wave form of the load-bearing emdash A web app for blind testing this would be an interesting project

It would be a pretty cool project.

I found out the hard way though that some modern audio denoisers/etc use something similar. One of my favorite youtubers audio has the exact same audio signature, even though it's clearly not AI generated. Eventually he mentioned that he was using a new AI cleanup tool and it clicked. Since then I've noticed it creeping into more and more videos. Linus Tech Tips uses it on some videos, for example.

So even for people who are sensitive to it, the false positive rate is now probably very high. It's making me a little crazy that other people don't seem to be bothered by it.

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