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We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Post by ryandv »

catlikesshrimp wrote: post #61
fragmede wrote: post #57

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not going to share a personal example, but eg plug "I bought my mom a vacuum cleaner for her birthday. Why did she get mad at me? she keeps complaining about the old one!" into ChatGPT vs find me any human willing to sit down and have that as an actual discussion with me as a human of any age. I'm just supposed to get it? I'm a fucking monster and unworthy of being loved because I need that explained to me? "You shou…

To be honest, that can happen to any kid depending on the background I grew up at a time when a home appliance was an acceptable gift for the woman in charge. I heard women complaining progressively more through time, and now it is not an acceptable gift.

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Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Post by caminanteblanco »

afiori wrote: post #71
tclancy wrote: post #64

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yes. I’d like to think having a mobile phone would be enough but there’s still how work can write you a check and how you can deposit it. Not sure if any bank will go without a fixed address.

A reasonable solution is to get a free "address" from the post office with optionally phone notifications for mail

Well the only problem here is that general delivery is still not eligible for any of the main things people need an address for, like ID, tax docs, etc. Even if you want to pay for a PO box (which also doesn't satisfy those requirements), you need an address to register for one.

I really wish there would be more work to try to at least add some kind of alternative path here, given America's growing homeless population. Leaving things to the goodwill of family or friends seems to me like a dereliction of duty by the state.

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Post by toenail »

donkey_brains wrote: post #23
reop2whiskey wrote: post #19

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Ah, brilliant plan. Before governments there were no homeless. Maybe now we can have a for-profit corporation take care of homeless services to really squeeze all the efficiency out of the system. Just like they did for the prisons.

Right, before governments you could just build a hut anywhere you wanted.

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Post by EgregiousCube »

cogman10 wrote: post #13

Beautiful story but with a sad undertone. A large percentage of the homeless have autism [1]. And that really sucks. If these people don't have support, their lives can turn miserable fast. And unfortunately it's just way too easy for these people to end up in abusive situations. It's a lot of work to care for people with autism (moderate to severe). There is no standard for what they need, their capabilities can be…

The article you linked shows 12-13% autism-positive rate over N~100 cases, in the UK - and it doesn't distinguish, in the free abstract at least, between minor/moderate/severe, or comorbidities among that population.

I agree that we should be kind to individuals and that understanding an individual's problems can help with that. That said, this paper does not appear to provide convincing evidence that autism is a major contributor to homelessness.

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Post by lurk2 »

m4ck_ wrote: post #52
reop2whiskey wrote: post #19

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IDK about ya'll but the ~25-30% (or whatever) I pay in taxes/SS/medicare isn't going to be a significant enough bump to enable me to eliminate homelessness... Where we can actually take the government out of the equation and actually help people: Zoning. In places without governments like Haiti you can raise a family in a relatively simple structure. It's not ideal but it's how humans have been not-homeless for the e…

> In places without governments like Haiti you can raise a family in a relatively simple structure.

The third world is not a model to emulate. Haiti is a failed state.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Post by cogman10 »

EgregiousCube wrote: post #85
cogman10 wrote: post #13

Beautiful story but with a sad undertone. A large percentage of the homeless have autism [1]. And that really sucks. If these people don't have support, their lives can turn miserable fast. And unfortunately it's just way too easy for these people to end up in abusive situations. It's a lot of work to care for people with autism (moderate to severe). There is no standard for what they need, their capabilities can be…

The article you linked shows 12-13% autism-positive rate over N~100 cases, in the UK - and it doesn't distinguish, in the free abstract at least, between minor/moderate/severe, or comorbidities among that population. I agree that we should be kind to individuals and that understanding an individual's problems can help with that. That said, this paper does not appear to provide convincing evidence that autism is a maj…

I was pretty careful not to say that autism causes homelessness. Rather, that a significant portion of the homeless have autism.

The abstract says the same thing.

Re: We invited a man into our home at Christmas and he stayed with us for 45 years

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Post by phantasmish »

afiori wrote: post #71
tclancy wrote: post #64

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yes. I’d like to think having a mobile phone would be enough but there’s still how work can write you a check and how you can deposit it. Not sure if any bank will go without a fixed address.

A reasonable solution is to get a free "address" from the post office with optionally phone notifications for mail

When we were making a long move and temporarily without a stable address I looked into getting a PO Box and it seemed impossible without a real address.

I ended up finding some kinda sketchy-feeling services aimed at people RV living, and not much else. I wasn’t able to find an official solution to the problem of “I need to receive mail but have no address” (there may be one, but in solid 60-90 minutes of searching I didn’t find it, but did find a lot of people complaining about the problem)

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Post by zoklet-enjoyer »

fragmede wrote: post #57
namanyayg wrote: post #38

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I'm trying to understand this better, possible to share any examples?

Not going to share a personal example, but eg plug "I bought my mom a vacuum cleaner for her birthday. Why did she get mad at me? she keeps complaining about the old one!" into ChatGPT vs find me any human willing to sit down and have that as an actual discussion with me as a human of any age. I'm just supposed to get it? I'm a fucking monster and unworthy of being loved because I need that explained to me? "You shou…

I would like a vacuum as gift. The one I currently have isn't very good. Not sure what her problem was.
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