Incrementation direction is orthogonal to up/down. When I disassemble a program, the addresses are all over the place and not ordered.
> That means smaller addresses are at the top and larger addresses are at the bottom.
No, my mental model is the exact opposite and this matches the jargon out there.
> also matches what you see in the terminal in /proc//maps
I think of this as a sorted list, not as a display or description of a model.
When I drive on a road, I think of think of things on the road near me to have lower addresses in my coordinate system and things further away as having higher addresses. When I write a list of things I see, this will be from left-to-right then from top-to-bottom on a sheet of paper, because it is a list that follows the writing directions of my language/script. When I look at a traffic sign things nearer to me will be at the bottom and things far away at the top, because that's the agreed-upon mental model of a road. When I look at my navi, things near me will be in the center and things far away from me at the edge of the display.
When I write down points in the first sector of the coordinate system, I might order things according to the x-coordinate ascending top-to-bottom. That doesn't mean I would draw the axis inverted.
The correspondence of physical addresses to position is entirely non-linear and also three dimensional so there is no natural top and bottom especially when we are talking about virtual addresses.
When I get taught a new concept I want to get to know the model everyone uses. I will not like a teacher, that tells me a different ordering which is different from how everyone else does it, because this the output of some random command on some random OS, which actually shows a list, not a graph of a memory model. (Sorry that's harsh, of course I still appreciate didactic simplification.)
Maybe the issue is that you consider the stack to be so important to determine the model of the whole process space. When I would draw a stack on it's own, I DO draw it from top-to-bottom. But when I draw a whole process space, I do not, because everything else is mapped/allocated from bottom-to-top. When you invert the direction of the mental model, yes the stack now grows from bottom-to-top. But no, the other things are now allocated from top-to-bottom instead. This are more things: the text, libraries, mmap'd files, and most-used thing: the heap are all allocated inverted now. And the most important thing, the index for all that: the addresses now are allocated from top-to-bottom.