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Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by sshine »

madaxe_again wrote: post #78
pfyra wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sounds like you need to share the night shift. It isn't sustainable to work all day and have every night's sleep ruined like that. It'll get better as the baby sleeps longer and longer, but chances are that you'll get burned out before that unless you get to sleep better. We had separate beds so one of us could sleep undisturbed every night.

Yeah, we have separate beds - she sleeps in what was our room, I sleep on the couch, so I don’t disturb her when I get up to tend to the bairn. She, I feel reasonably, points out that it was not me that spent 10 months being pregnant with our child - and she sleeps extremely soundly, to the extent that she will sleep straight through screaming and crying more often than not, which means I have to be on alert, as I ne…

I’d penguin up like you, too.

But it sounds like if you found nap time during the day, you’d slip right into it.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by VanTodi »

madaxe_again wrote: post #78
pfyra wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sounds like you need to share the night shift. It isn't sustainable to work all day and have every night's sleep ruined like that. It'll get better as the baby sleeps longer and longer, but chances are that you'll get burned out before that unless you get to sleep better. We had separate beds so one of us could sleep undisturbed every night.

Yeah, we have separate beds - she sleeps in what was our room, I sleep on the couch, so I don’t disturb her when I get up to tend to the bairn. She, I feel reasonably, points out that it was not me that spent 10 months being pregnant with our child - and she sleeps extremely soundly, to the extent that she will sleep straight through screaming and crying more often than not, which means I have to be on alert, as I ne…

in 2 months she has no excuse anymore. as a father of a 1 1/2 year old, i can relate to you. i wish you all the best.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by charles_f »

> Depression, anxiety, irritability, distress

I'm now at a point where I manage to take a step back when I feel generally down, and just look into whether I had enough sleep, or if the weather is crap. These are the two most important predictors for whether I'll find my job to be terminally depressing, or my situation to be doomed ; and I try to convince myself to take my distress with a fistful of salt then, and wait to be less tired or the weather to get better, before I overanalyze my situation.

It does not always work, but sometimes it helps a little with rationalizing

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by desmosxxx »

madaxe_again wrote: post #73
kungfufrog wrote: post #20

Resonates with anyone that has had children. Biggest impact for both my wife and I was overall sleep quality/quantity and sacrificing sleep for a modicum of personal time at the end of the day.

My wife still manages 12+ hours per day - I get about 4-6. She wonders why I am gradually becoming irrationally irritable, as in her view being overtired is something that is easily controlled. Easily said when you get to sleep in to 1pm or later every day. I find myself picking fights with anyone and everyone, even inanimate objects. I know it’s crazy. We don’t have time together any more - I just fall asleep the mo…

We have 3 kids and it was never as hard as you're describing, so that probably has something to do with people wanting to have more than one kid.

I don't want to overstep, but you guys are doing it wrong. Your wife sleeping 12 hours doesn't sound right to me. We took shifts, but my wife was going to bed very early (9pm) and waking up around 5 or 6pm and then I'd sleep. She did this so we had a solution that worked for both of us. If your wife is not willing to do that, then you should be swapping nights at the very least.

Your wife sleeping at midnight and waking up so late is not sharing the workload at all and is frankly abusive IMO. I'd also look into postpartum issues since sleeping 12 hours is not normal.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by charles_f »

kungfufrog wrote: post #20

Resonates with anyone that has had children. Biggest impact for both my wife and I was overall sleep quality/quantity and sacrificing sleep for a modicum of personal time at the end of the day.

For some time I was driving to the office (or my clients'), and almost everyday taking a nap in it after dropping the kids at daycare. When we got a minivan I even sneaked a comforter in it. I was going at the lowest level to avoid being seen, and took an extra half hour sleep. It made all the difference. Yet I felt shameful.

I remember the sensation of feeling drained of all energy at 8am, after battling to get kids through the door.

Time plays in your favor. It gets easier, much faster than you think.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by losvedir »

As the father of a 3 week old, I feel this!

I've been very interested in getting more data about just how much and what kind of sleep I'm getting. I know smart watches these days claim to provide that. Anyone know how accurate it is, and which watches are best for it?

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by desmosxxx »

madaxe_again wrote: post #78
pfyra wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sounds like you need to share the night shift. It isn't sustainable to work all day and have every night's sleep ruined like that. It'll get better as the baby sleeps longer and longer, but chances are that you'll get burned out before that unless you get to sleep better. We had separate beds so one of us could sleep undisturbed every night.

Yeah, we have separate beds - she sleeps in what was our room, I sleep on the couch, so I don’t disturb her when I get up to tend to the bairn. She, I feel reasonably, points out that it was not me that spent 10 months being pregnant with our child - and she sleeps extremely soundly, to the extent that she will sleep straight through screaming and crying more often than not, which means I have to be on alert, as I ne…

I'm sure you helped out while she was pregnant as well? Was she sleep deprived during pregnancy? This doesn't sound 'reasonable' to me.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by madaxe_again »

desmosxxx wrote: post #84
madaxe_again wrote: post #73

Earlier quoted context omitted.

My wife still manages 12+ hours per day - I get about 4-6. She wonders why I am gradually becoming irrationally irritable, as in her view being overtired is something that is easily controlled. Easily said when you get to sleep in to 1pm or later every day. I find myself picking fights with anyone and everyone, even inanimate objects. I know it’s crazy. We don’t have time together any more - I just fall asleep the mo…

We have 3 kids and it was never as hard as you're describing, so that probably has something to do with people wanting to have more than one kid. I don't want to overstep, but you guys are doing it wrong. Your wife sleeping 12 hours doesn't sound right to me. We took shifts, but my wife was going to bed very early (9pm) and waking up around 5 or 6pm and then I'd sleep. She did this so we had a solution that worked fo…

I dunno - single parents manage it somehow.

Probably doesn’t help that we live off-grid in total isolation, in a country where childminding doesn’t really exist, as most folks here have multi-generational households, so there’s no demand.

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by justinator »

operatingthetan wrote: post #71
abrichr wrote: post #57

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you please clarify which retainer?

Looks like a common one is called "SnoreRX." Lots of random stuff for the same purpose on Amazon.

Correct, but I’m not here to sell you on that brand or say it’ll work for everyone. But for me it is very effective. I can actually have a relationship with someone (and sleep next to them at night!)

Re: Impacts of lack of sleep

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Post by hereonout2 »

madaxe_again wrote: post #78
pfyra wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sounds like you need to share the night shift. It isn't sustainable to work all day and have every night's sleep ruined like that. It'll get better as the baby sleeps longer and longer, but chances are that you'll get burned out before that unless you get to sleep better. We had separate beds so one of us could sleep undisturbed every night.

Yeah, we have separate beds - she sleeps in what was our room, I sleep on the couch, so I don’t disturb her when I get up to tend to the bairn. She, I feel reasonably, points out that it was not me that spent 10 months being pregnant with our child - and she sleeps extremely soundly, to the extent that she will sleep straight through screaming and crying more often than not, which means I have to be on alert, as I ne…

I might be wrong, but sleeping in till 1pm with an 8 month old baby sounds like maybe something else may be going on.

My partner had a very difficult birth that has led to a series of mental health issues. I didn't spot these for months initially, and it took a lot for it all to come to a head and out in the open.

It was easy to miss the issues with a child to care for.

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