Stop Telling Everyone What You Do for a Living

Post by boredemployee » Tue, Apr 11, 2023, 10:35 AM UTC

blitzar wrote: post #75

capableweb wrote: post #72

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I've talked with endless amount of people, people I know since before and people I don't know since before, and I don't think anyone (unless relevant to the discussion at hand) has asked me how much money I make, or who I'm sleeping with. Maybe it's because I'm not 16 years old, or maybe it's because I don't frequent night clubs in hot metropolitan areas anymore, but that strikes me as very odd that most of the peopl…

People dont ask these things directly ... asking what you do for a living is asking how much money you make. > 16 years old Back then they asked what your parents did for a living

Post by morelikeborelax » Tue, Apr 11, 2023, 10:37 AM UTC

somewhereoutth wrote: post #79

In the UK we do this as part of status negotiation - the second question anyone asks (after whats your name?) is what do you do? Then we can decide whether we are above or below the other person in the status hierarchy, which is roughly as follows: - Architect - Artist/Designer/Creative - Lawyer/Doctor/Teacher - Executive/Manager - ... - ... - Bar staff - Engineer - Software Engineer - Waiter - Driver - Cleaner

Post by Manjuuu » Tue, Apr 11, 2023, 10:41 AM UTC

krisoft wrote: post #36

Manjuuu wrote: post #12

If you are someone that tells other people what he does for a living and talk about work when meeting new people, stop doing that and reflect on why it's so hard to come up with something alternative[1]. No, it's not because a good chunk of your time is devoted to work or something about values reflected in the work you do(there is not enough "space" for that at work). Only insufferable humans cares about your title…

> there is not enough "space" for that at work It sounds like you are over generalising from a limited set of experiences. > reflect on why it's so hard to come up with something alternative Same with this one. I for one find it easy to talk about things other than my work, but also find it that people enjoy when I tell them about my field and have a ton of questions. The key is to live an interesting life and be a g…

Post by blitzar » Tue, Apr 11, 2023, 10:42 AM UTC

boredemployee wrote: post #81

blitzar wrote: post #75

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People dont ask these things directly ... asking what you do for a living is asking how much money you make. > 16 years old Back then they asked what your parents did for a living

I have a genuine interest to know what people do for a living, I don't really care about their paycheck. I always find interesting how people try to tell how their jobs are interesting but in the end we all know it is boring as hell. It's amazing how we are willing to do shit stuff so we can be able to pay our bills.

Post by boredemployee » Tue, Apr 11, 2023, 10:44 AM UTC

blitzar wrote: post #87

boredemployee wrote: post #81

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I have a genuine interest to know what people do for a living, I don't really care about their paycheck. I always find interesting how people try to tell how their jobs are interesting but in the end we all know it is boring as hell. It's amazing how we are willing to do shit stuff so we can be able to pay our bills.

The most interesting of 'genuine interest to know what people do for a living' converstations I have had are with parents of late teen parents ... who want to guide their children towards careers or advice about careers (almost always includes - "there is good money in that" so the same rule applies all the same).