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Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by whoibrar » Tue, Jul 19, 2022, 6:26 PM UTC

anewpersonality wrote: post #5

The new friend catchers are all on Discord.

Similar to any other medium, Discord Servers for nieche interests where there is an incentive to go back (semi regular events / activities) are better than anything else mentioned above.

What makes discord better medium

- Ability to have single / threaded chats

- Multiple channels (#general #help #more-nieche)

- Instant transition between voice and text channels

- Able to screencast (watch content together, explain understand better)

- Stimulating being together, not necessarily talking (music channels, work together channels)

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by whoibrar » Tue, Jul 19, 2022, 6:33 PM UTC

alimoeeny wrote: post #48

est31 wrote: post #41

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know what you mean, many discords fall into either category. But there are discords that are in the sweet middle ground. Also requires time investment on your part though because you won't make friends by just lurking and never interacting.

How do you find this subset of discords? I mean most of the ones I hear about are from creators promoting their servers and by definition they’re too busy and chaotic. Any pointers?

Most sub-reddits also have a discord of their own, also do many of your favourite products and services and sometimes these are nice places beyond the marketing shills.

One of my favourite servers which I later joined as mod is Tools for thought [0] (15k+ members) which is a space for discussing new tools, productivity, workflow, help with tools and similar stuff.

https://forthought.tools/

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by 1123581321 » Tue, Jul 19, 2022, 7:15 PM UTC

yourusername wrote: post #21

krageon wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why is that weird? I recall starting videogames around that time, and if the internet had been easier to access I probably would have been on there as well.

Most 3 year olds can't read.

Children who can’t read browse the Internet using visual cues (bookmark buttons, suggested sites, sometimes recent site autocomplete, etc.) All mouse or trackpad based. It’s obviously limited and from my observation, they have no idea they’re missing so much.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by jrm4 » Tue, Jul 19, 2022, 11:55 PM UTC

0xferruccio wrote: post #14

Author here, happy to see this got picked up!

Loved this, your opener reminded me of a personal shift I decided recently. Because I have had family in politics, it had always floated around as an option, so for some time I was subconsciously like "let me muzzle myself on social media as if I may run" and today I've decided something like the opposite, "let me actively insure that I'm always able to say what I want by doing that now and if it cuts me out of something, then I probably never needed to be there."

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by egypturnash » Wed, Jul 20, 2022, 12:39 AM UTC

dncornholio wrote: post #73

egypturnash wrote: post #50

Everything described in this history could have happened just as easily if he'd posted everything under the name "Raver Tomato". Aliases give you the option of more easily disassociating things from your legal identity, as well as making it harder for people to find all the embarassing shit you posted when you were a teenager.

Wondering if this is some state-sponsored post to prevent people entering bogus information online. Everything in this article is true, except the "Lesson learned"

It’s not as if corporations haven’t had their own reasons to push for “real names” to make tracking easier.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by est31 » Wed, Jul 20, 2022, 6:31 AM UTC

alimoeeny wrote: post #48

est31 wrote: post #41

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know what you mean, many discords fall into either category. But there are discords that are in the sweet middle ground. Also requires time investment on your part though because you won't make friends by just lurking and never interacting.

How do you find this subset of discords? I mean most of the ones I hear about are from creators promoting their servers and by definition they’re too busy and chaotic. Any pointers?

Yeah those aren't great. There are discords that are specific to topics, like your favourite hobby. Then you need to find one that doesn't have too many, but also not too few people. They will be filtered by hobby I guess.

Re: Building friend catchers

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Post by freddref » Wed, Jul 20, 2022, 9:43 PM UTC

meowtastic wrote: post #42

freddref wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I've had the same experience on linkedin, and I think it's because a lot of the content is not specific enough, it increasingly feels like facebook. I think there may be other places with a higher density of very specific purpose, like angel.co edit: this point is made in the article - "The beginners guides to everything have already been written. What’s missing is more advanced content."

Yes, when I realised it's just like Facebook I decided to stop posting altogether. I never heard of angel.co as a social platform, only know of it for startup jobs. I'll have another look, thanks!

Right, angel.co is not exactly a social platform by design, but people on there are in the startup space, likely very motivated, working on something very specific and open to discussion/proposition.

I guess the specificity of the discussion is the main thing interesting there, provided startups are your thing.

For other things, hobbies etc., there may be more specific places where you get a concentration of focused discussion on a topic.