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I have a friend in the UK, similar situation. After years of receiving no help I took it upon myself to figure out what was causing his self-sabotaging behaviour. I can't say I made any great discoveries other than figuring out his trigger points and devising strategies to avoid them. Obviously everyone is going to be different but my friend's issues stem from being lonely and isolated a lot of the time. Simply me be…
Could you expand on "I found that ensuring he always has a supply at home has helped with this too"? I guess you mean that when they'd go out to a pub or bar they'd spend too much, which means that social pressure of embarrassment and bar-staff weren't effective controls. Did the extra money spent add to the pressure? What I'm curious at is that makes it sound like they're somewhat controlled within their home, or ju…
I don't know what went through his mind every morning but I'm sure that buying his daily alcohol fix was a top priority and everything else was secondary.
I figured that if he got up everyday without this nagging thought in his head then it may help him regain some semblance of control? Because I bought the same brand of drink and in enough quantity to ensure he wouldn't need to go out any buy anymore each day, it also helped him establish a steady routine. In a way, it made it boring for him but not to the point where he'll resort to his previous behaviour. The fact he isn't paying for it is also a motivating factor, obviously.
A year on and he's now in a routine where he doesn't drink before 3pm and then only one 1 ltr bottle of 5% strength cider. His health and general mood have both improved and, most importantly, there have been no hospital visits.
I describe him as alcohol dependent rather than a full-blown alcoholic because his drinking is more a learned habit rather than pure addiction. I'm not sure my strategy would work so well otherwise and I would certainly caution against it.