Just call credit card center for a refund and get a burner number…not a big deal. Regarding banks: get some Bitcoin just in case, as it can be much worse when banks ban you.
Sure, I would love to buy grocery with bitcoin.... What a joke.
Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
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Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#82I know "don't use social networks made by evil megacorps that make money by trampling all over your privacy and making you addicted" is the kind of advice everyone sagely nods at but no one heeds. But it especially applies to dating apps. Like the proverbial sausages, once you know what goes on under the hood you won't ever feel like touching one of them with a ten foot pole.
Is there a single dating app that doesn’t do that?
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#83Getting banned from Tinder is like getting banned from a bar. Just go somewhere else.
Years ago there were a lot of active dating sites but there aren’t nearly as many any more. Where exactly are you supposed to go?
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#84It has always been like that on Tinder. My phone number can't create a new account for example (never receive the confirmation code). That's called shadowban in the case of OP. Bumble started doing the same practices a year ago (which makes sense as they have the same founder) But they are not 100% wrong, Tinder is not here to make people meet each other. They are here to make money and people don't pay because they…
As a woman, Tinder is fine if you wanna find a fuck buddy and don’t take it seriously. I see a lot of people (men and women) get wrapped up in the swipe game and that’s really not how it works. You can’t take anything that happens on that platform personally. Unfortunately, rule #1 on tinder is “be physically attractive”. If you want tinder to work for you consistently as a man, get your personal hygiene in order and…
Rule #1 *for a man.
That's just how the dating market is :)
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#85Getting banned from Tinder is like getting banned from a bar. Just go somewhere else.
How many Tinders is there? In my country they's pretty much only it, none of the other apps have any users (especially in my age range). I'm also "kinda" banned on Tinder btw - or rather, my account got in an unusable state due to some bug, or an interaction between multiple bugs. The app literally barely works . How pathetic for a company this size. I feel sorry for anyone who has to work on their code base.
Really?
In my area, single people also use Hinge, Bumble, CoffeeMeetsBagel, OKCupid, POF, Match... I'm fugly as hell but even I was able to find someone on a non-Tinder platform.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#86Where's your Tinder bio in this article? I can't imagine creating a new account and publishing something obscene on any social platform today without being flagged or worse.
> but a few days ago I came to a new country That one is the key. Likely some analytics service (Facebook?) has his phone associated with country A (his country of origin), and Tinder sees the registration coming in from country B (new country). That mismatch then triggered some anti-fraud signalling.
Or some of the photos he uploaded contained nudity. Or some parts of his profile or some of his photos were considered hate speech under the community guidelines. Or his profile was considered "self-promotional" (e.g. advertising his work or services) or contained addresses or other means of contacting him. We know nothing.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#87It has always been like that on Tinder. My phone number can't create a new account for example (never receive the confirmation code). That's called shadowban in the case of OP. Bumble started doing the same practices a year ago (which makes sense as they have the same founder) But they are not 100% wrong, Tinder is not here to make people meet each other. They are here to make money and people don't pay because they…
> as soon as they detect non standard behavior they shadowban, people keep seeing profile and keep paying
That's called "fraud" in most countries. If you believe that fraud is "not 100% wrong" then I don't know what to say to that.
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#88This is basically the paradigm of any monopolistic or near monopolistic system. You can screw over a small minority without provoking a real response so long as you are appeasing or distracting the majority. Big tech, traditional companies, and even government.
Or it's a lack of enforcement/regulation. You really think Tinder is a monopoly? lol
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#89From Tinder's ToS: > Tinder may terminate your account at any time without notice if it believes that you have violated this Agreement. Upon such termination, you will not be entitled to any refund for purchases. > For residents of the Republic of Korea, except in the case [...], we will without delay notify you of the reason for taking the relevant step. They openly say in advance that they'll ban users who they thi…
I'm not single and haven't been fora long time, but my understanding is that if you're single you can't really opt out of these apps, practically speaking. Even the norms around dating, picking people up in bars, etc. are changing because of these apps, so it's harder to find people in the real world. Not impossible, obviously, but getting banned from Tinder is kind of a big deal. (Also all these apps are owned by the same company, I think it's the Match Group.)
Re: Tinder just permabanned me or the problem with big tech
#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
Moreover Tinder has an incentive to keep the paid users paid my making sure it is difficult for them to find a match. The most lucrative customers for matchmaking sites are the most desperate. Even with a lot of competition due to network effects most of the people would always be driven to the most popular sites.
> Tinder has an incentive to keep the paid users paid my making sure it is difficult for them to find a match An evil data scientist would put almost exclusively users on your screen who you are interested in but they are not interested in you to boost your spendings and would mix a small portion of good bidirectional matches just to make his purpose less obvious. Fortunately evil data scientists does not exist... I…
They don’t even have to be doing that on purpose, if one just optimizes the revenue per user metric he’s effectively doing the same thing even if not on purpose.