The "required fields considered harmful" opinion was a hard lesson learned through real experience -- the experience of repeated outages of large, complex systems like Google Search, GMail, etc. Certainly, prior to this experience, everybody assumed required fields were a good idea.
More abstractly, the hard lesson was: In a large distributed system, the site of use is the only reasonable place to do data validation. If you do it anywhere else, you will create a more brittle system that can't handle changes. The reason is pretty straightforward, but is more of a human reason than a mathematical one: when someone decides to modify a protocol for some new feature, they know they obviously have to modify the code that produces and consumes the protocol in order to implement the feature. But if they have to update a bunch of other places too, that's at best more work, and at worst easily forgotten. It's really important that any part of the system that is just a middleman will be agnostic to the data and pass it through unmodified -- even if the data is based on a newer version of the schema than the middleman is aware of.
So yes, you actually want the validation to be in your business logic. But you don't want it to complicate that business logic too much. Most of the time, optional fields (with default values) provide the right balance between making changes easy without making code ugly. Sometimes, a more drastic change -- like declaring a new version of the protocol and writing translation layers -- is a good idea, but this is an expensive step that you want to do rarely.
Now, obviously you don't agree with this. But your arguments sound like they are coming from a place of intuition, not experience. That's fine, intuition is critical to innovation. But you can't go around claiming your intuition is "superior" without proving it out in practice. Intuition is always based on a simplified model in your head, and the real world often doesn't work like you think it will. I assure you you don't know anything I don't, in decades of working on this stuff I've heard all the ideas. The only way to prove yourself right is to actually build systems your way and show success in the field. Of course, there will likely never be a definitive proof that one idea or the other is superior, only anecdotal experience. However, the fact that a large majority of successful distributed systems today are built on Protobuf or a similar model to Protobuf suggests that experience leans heavily in that model's favor.