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Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by IG_Semmelweiss »

I was squarely on the decriminalize camp but as with everything, life tends to give you more perspectives.

The ethical calculus appears to be more complicated than the straightforward 2 consenting adults engaged in a victimless crime.

Consider the current rates of single mothers, the increasing trends of broken homes and higher divorce rates, one is forced to really examine what is under the belly of this beast.

Is there causality, or not?

Do kids pay the price from easier access to family breakups? Do these side deals even lead to breakups at all, or were they just serve to speed up the inevitable ?

I would like to understand if there is a way to estimate the impact of any broad change in policy.

Thing do bode well in one respect: AFAIK, decriminalizing marijuana in portugal led to less drug abuse.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by psyc »

gizmo686 wrote: post #67
correct_horse wrote: post #40

The funniest part of this article (in the context of being posted on HN) is that the author separately mentions engineer and software engineer in her list of client professions. That settles it - normal people think they're different.

I say this as a software engineer, does anyone honestly believe that software engineers are engineers?

This comes up often enough here. The number of people who do argue that “software engineer” is a kind of engineer, alongside “mechanical”, “civil”, etc, is always dismaying to me. I’ve always maintained that it’s merely a common title within the software industry, based on a loose analogy. Similar to “software architect”, it’s evocative, not literal.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by spoonjim »

akudha wrote: post #15

1,200 an hour! Jeez, that is insane! good for them. Once in a while, I come across something like this and wonder, what is it like to be that rich to casually drop 1,200 an hour , for anything, let alone on escorts.

Well many people spend $12,000 a year on a hobby like travel, skiing, whatever. One escort a month is similar. Very few consume it hourly at the same volume as say Netflix.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by manquer »

Aella wrote: post #54
14 wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is also dangerous for a man as well. Some report being robbed or have their picture take upon arrival and blackmailed. It would be beneficial to both sides if people didn’t have to hide what they do.

Out of my 415 clients from the survey, 6 reported being arrested, 7 physically assaulted, 26 got a STI, and 92 were stolen from.

Thank you for this insightful post.

I can only imagine the courage it takes to write something like this (you briefly hinted at the end).

Really appreciate your efforts to bring light and improve safety in a difficult line of work.

I too hope it doesn't affect your work, although I suspect you would get some unwanted attention with this exposure.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by detaro »

psyc wrote: post #82
gizmo686 wrote: post #67

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I say this as a software engineer, does anyone honestly believe that software engineers are engineers?

This comes up often enough here. The number of people who do argue that “software engineer” is a kind of engineer, alongside “mechanical”, “civil”, etc, is always dismaying to me. I’ve always maintained that it’s merely a common title within the software industry, based on a loose analogy. Similar to “software architect”, it’s evocative, not literal.

I found Hillel Wayne's series on the topic interesting, where he interviewed people that had worked in both "traditional engineering" and software.

https://www.hillelwayne.com/post/are-we-really-engineers/ (first post, later ones linked from the top)

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by fastball »

spoonjim wrote: post #83

As a fan of Aella’s Twitter persona I wish I had known about the escorting before it stopped!

This strikes me as a weird things to say tbh, but in the spirit of the article I decided to try to look at it a bit more rationally and not sure this is wrong to say, but I still don't like it and I'm not exactly sure why.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by fastball »

gizmo686 wrote: post #67
correct_horse wrote: post #40

The funniest part of this article (in the context of being posted on HN) is that the author separately mentions engineer and software engineer in her list of client professions. That settles it - normal people think they're different.

I say this as a software engineer, does anyone honestly believe that software engineers are engineers?

I have a (non-software) engineering degree but write software, do I get to be called a Software Engineer?

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by staticautomatic »

Aella wrote: post #54
14 wrote: post #31

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is also dangerous for a man as well. Some report being robbed or have their picture take upon arrival and blackmailed. It would be beneficial to both sides if people didn’t have to hide what they do.

Out of my 415 clients from the survey, 6 reported being arrested, 7 physically assaulted, 26 got a STI, and 92 were stolen from.

92/415 is a lot!

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by spoonjim »

fastball wrote: post #87
spoonjim wrote: post #83

As a fan of Aella’s Twitter persona I wish I had known about the escorting before it stopped!

This strikes me as a weird things to say tbh, but in the spirit of the article I decided to try to look at it a bit more rationally and not sure this is wrong to say, but I still don't like it and I'm not exactly sure why.

Well the article should give you some glimpse into the mindset behind transactional sex. I see Tweets I like, and photos of a woman with a good body. Her rate was $1,200, I am willing to pay. Consenting adults, consenting exchange, it might not be for you, and it might make you feel gross, that’s OK as you don’t try to deny us the right to make the exchange. Of course not relevant since she is not escorting now.
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