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How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by acmecorps »

mastazi wrote: post #73
OJFord wrote: post #71

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And then what? You score the date and rely on your awesome personality to make up not only for being physically disappointing, but having to some degree lied about it via a professional portrait photographer's tips and tricks? And if all that works, you found someone who liked the look of a fake/augmented version of yourself, but whom you persuaded to like the real self anyway... Congratulations?

I think sometimes having a foot in the door helps anyways. Of course grossly misrepresenting yourself is a bad idea but enhancing a bit, why not? Also, it is indeed possible that your potential partners may value other aspects besides your appearance, not everyone is obsessed with looks. But of course your mileage may vary depending who you met in your life, and also based on where you live / local customs etc. Then…

I'd like to underpromise, but overdeliver - that's my motto!

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by fiddlerwoaroof »

OJFord wrote: post #71
kbenson wrote: post #65

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Oh, someone that knows what they're doing photographically can help quite a bit there. A good professional portrait photographer has probably forgotten more tips and tricks to do with posing and lighting than the average Instagram professional ever knew.

And then what? You score the date and rely on your awesome personality to make up not only for being physically disappointing, but having to some degree lied about it via a professional portrait photographer's tips and tricks? And if all that works, you found someone who liked the look of a fake/augmented version of yourself, but whom you persuaded to like the real self anyway... Congratulations?

Eventually, we’ll have glasses that can apply everyone’s preferred filter in real time

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by vmception »

yosito wrote: post #78
vmception wrote: post #77

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All the dating apps use a derivative of this and you can game that. They deny any particular label like ELO, used in online game lobbies. But knowing how leveled game matchmaking works will allow you to optimize your experience in dating apps far greater than wondering if you need a picture of a dog in your profile to get more matches. Hope you guys don't mess up my experience with this knowledge! But I’ve been using…

Any recommendations on where to learn how leveled game matchmaking works?

Not sure.

Basically you start as a baseline or perhaps an average, and your own behavior influences who you get matched with.

So in dating apps, matching indiscriminately in frustration to getting few matches will ensure you get thrown into the less attractive bucket. As you match with mostly other people already in that bucket. You can delay or prevent this from happening by being more discerning, not dissimilar from trying to chat up everyone in a cried. But you can get the algorithm to only show you other people considered attractive by a large population.

Note: if your ranking is too low, people you see are not actually seeing you. So they aren’t really expressing an opinion on accepting or rejecting you. So keep it high. Apps are different and they update alot, but just assume this is happening behind the scenes.

The sad or sadder part of this is to not match with unattractive people. Keep them in pending forever even if you rarely get matches. The algorithm also has to learn to show you to people that are widely considered attractive. Takes 3-7 weeks and then its a gravy train (in the cities), or time to reevaluate other aspects of your profile.

Its not really that complicated, just counterintuitive.

Last thing I’ll add is that attractive people have the same anxieties or “awesome personalities” or other attributes as unattractive people. So you can prioritize your time accordingly.

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by [deleted] »

acmecorps wrote: post #81
mastazi wrote: post #73

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think sometimes having a foot in the door helps anyways. Of course grossly misrepresenting yourself is a bad idea but enhancing a bit, why not? Also, it is indeed possible that your potential partners may value other aspects besides your appearance, not everyone is obsessed with looks. But of course your mileage may vary depending who you met in your life, and also based on where you live / local customs etc. Then…

I'd like to underpromise, but overdeliver - that's my motto!

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Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by jokethrowaway »

PicassoCTs wrote: post #5

They might be security wise rather weak, but their statistics blog is a brutal-beautiful view into what humans search for dating. https://theblog.okcupid.com/tagged/data

Wow, the in app questions are pretty politicised to say the least.

Is that something that really matters in dating these days?

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by mc32 »

OJFord wrote: post #71
kbenson wrote: post #65

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Oh, someone that knows what they're doing photographically can help quite a bit there. A good professional portrait photographer has probably forgotten more tips and tricks to do with posing and lighting than the average Instagram professional ever knew.

And then what? You score the date and rely on your awesome personality to make up not only for being physically disappointing, but having to some degree lied about it via a professional portrait photographer's tips and tricks? And if all that works, you found someone who liked the look of a fake/augmented version of yourself, but whom you persuaded to like the real self anyway... Congratulations?

It depends. If you have a good few textual exchanges that show you to be engaging, they may forgo some facial appearance shortcomings. So if the other person engages with good looking ones but those disappoint in their conversation but you do well in conversation, getting your foot in the door with the good photo of yourself could make the difference.

Sometimes people with good looks fail to cultivate other aspects of their person. An average looking person can take advantage of that by developing these other areas. But... you need that first opportunity.

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by OJFord »

dec0dedab0de wrote: post #80
OJFord wrote: post #71

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And then what? You score the date and rely on your awesome personality to make up not only for being physically disappointing, but having to some degree lied about it via a professional portrait photographer's tips and tricks? And if all that works, you found someone who liked the look of a fake/augmented version of yourself, but whom you persuaded to like the real self anyway... Congratulations?

Think of it more like ignoring job requirements when submitting your resume. Once you get an interview, that's all that matters.

Or rather, lying on your CV, claiming you meet the requirements; having someone who knows all the tips tricks and buzzwords edit it for you?

But hey, once you get an interview!

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by simonw »

k__ wrote: post #72
simonw wrote: post #68

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I thought most modern browsers behave as if SameSite=Lax automatically these days. Were OkCupid deliberately setting SameSite=None on their cookies?

Wasn't lax just for static assets like images that are linked in external HTML?

Yes it was - "... are sent when a user is navigating to the origin site" https://developer.mozilla.org/en-US/docs/Web/HTTP/Headers/Se...

Re: How to boost your popularity on OkCupid using CSRF and a JSON type confusion

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Post by ftio »

m0rti wrote: post #44
the__alchemist wrote: post #7

Anecdote: OkCupid is the only website or app where I've had an account hijacked. I got it back with a password reset, but the profile and pics were filled with bogus content.

I had the same experience. My profile was transformed into a 50-year-old white male wearing a trucker hat without my knowledge. By the time I was able to access my account, it had a bunch of matches and messages from 50-60 year-old American women.

So how'd your dates go?
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