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Towards Better Online Dating

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Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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A site that would help one make new friends would be very interesting. Right now (AFAIK) there are only two kinds of sites: those where you interact with your existing friends (Facebook) and those that help you find dates (OkCupid, Match.com, etc.) But what about a site that would let you make NEW friends (but "just" friends)? Would that be awkward? Online dating used to seem a lot awkward and is now kind of mainstre…

meetup.com

Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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How about: Instead of a static profile, a tumblog-style First Impression that contains a persons consumption habits (movies, music, tv, etc) as well as pictures, feelings and thoughts. They can update it incrementally to keep it fresh and relevant. You can follow another persons First Impression to get a passive view of them over time. Way better than canned answers to canned questions and filling out surveys. The se…

Thank you for sharing this. As I was reading this post last night and the comments here this morning, I had some ideas about how to potentially solve the problems. Some of the ideas I had you've outlined and tried. Glad to see I'm not alone in these thoughts.

Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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Wait, what? OkCupid seems to be at the forefront in this space. They get people in India to rate the attractiveness of new members and use that to limit your access to people significantly more attractive than you are. Is this common knowledge? I'm shocked if it's true, but I'm sort of thinking there should be a [citation needed] after that.

I just checked my archives, and in June 2010, they sent out this email. Note that there is no indication of using offshore labor to determine this. Also, I have no idea if there are more categories, like top quartile: We are very pleased to report that you are in the top half of OkCupid's most attractive users. The scales recently tipped in your favor, and we thought you'd like to know. How can we say this with confi…

If it is true, it is too bad. Don't we know beauty is in the eyes of the beholder? Someone you find attractive is ugly to somebody else and vice versa.

Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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post #19

There is a problem with attempts at making online dating work like "real world" dating. I'll state my reasons for this belief up front: I'm very happily in an almost two year relationship with somebody I've met online (OKCupid) whom I could have never met in person. Before, I've had a happy (even if not lasting) and amicably ending relationships with other women whom I could have never met in person. I'll use my anec…

"most men are intimidated by intelligent women" While in theory a man's chances of finding a mate increase as his IQ increases, I'm not entirely convinced that women are attracted to raw intelligence either.

http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligenc...

"Each additional point of IQ increased the odds of virginity by 2.7% for males and 1.7% for females."

Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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post #85

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"most men are intimidated by intelligent women" While in theory a man's chances of finding a mate increase as his IQ increases, I'm not entirely convinced that women are attracted to raw intelligence either.

http://www.gnxp.com/blog/2007/04/intercourse-and-intelligenc... "Each additional point of IQ increased the odds of virginity by 2.7% for males and 1.7% for females."

I was talking about odds of marriage, not the age of losing ones virginity.

Re: Towards Better Online Dating

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post #6

I love the characterization of the current solutions in this space as "just too O(n)". A poignant, elegant, delightfully nerdy description.

Sorry, I'm nerdy but I guess not nerdy enough to be in on the joke. Could someone explain it to me? I'm "the business guy" in my startup, though I'm actually a girl.

It's big-O notation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_O_notation
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