In particular it's hard to tell if any particular fork is just a one man hobby project, a fork of a fork, or has any significant work behind it.
Of course the big one is LineageOS, but they seem to make specific phone images, mostly for high-end phones, rather than generic system images for my low-end phone.
The list of generic system images is extremely long and not all that helpful: https://github.com/phhusson/treble_experimentations/wiki/Gen...
I ended up chosing phh-treble because it doesn't add any BS, promises quick updates, and serves as a base for many other roms, lending it some reliability. It's pretty much AOSP with hardware fixes.
That said, it doesn't do some pretty basic things like automatic brightness and night mode, or a PIN timeout. So maybe that's eventually drive me to try another ROM...