Social networks and Facebook in general are a certain aspect of "progress" in society. Yes, it's not perfect, but it's ubiquitous enough that it's considered a primary contact channel that reaches many people at once. Not liking it/hating it/etc. is fine. It's one's own prerogative. But don't complain other people find it useful and you will be left behind because you don't.
An exaggerated analogy is like saying "I don't like computers/cars/aeroplanes/internet. I hate that. It's not right I am left behind for not wanting to use it".
Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
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Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#82> I hate that, if I somehow don’t want to consign my personal data, beliefs, preferences, relationships, work history, daily plans, and private messages to a massive advertising corporation, I have to risk missing out on seminal life events. Why not have a Facebook account but only use it read-only for the most part? Nothing requires that you post your beliefs, work history, daily plans and such. That's what I do. I…
> Nothing requires that you post your beliefs, work history, daily plans and such.
Except a lot of information about these things can be inferred simply from using the network, through metadata and behavioral analysis. Facebook will also use their software running on your machine to steal just about every piece of information they can access at rest there.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#83Not being on Facebook is sort of like not having a cellphone. As someone who has never had a cell phone, I can say that living this way in a first-world country is challenging. I've been in situations where it's assumed I do have a cell phone, and the result ranges from awkward to maddening for the other party. I also don't have a Facebook account. Not having a cell phone is much more troublesome. The pull of network…
Not having Facebook and not having a cellphone are two completely different things. If you don't have Facebook, you might miss out on some social stuff. Not having a cellphone is a bad idea, even just from a safety standpoint. What if there is an incident and you need to call emergency services? Maybe you crash your car? Maybe you come across another crashed car, and can't contact emergency services because you don't…
I've never had a cellphone either; I do it because of the danger, life is so tame nowerdays that it's one of few thrills that are still legal.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#84I remember reading this when it was originally posted years ago and have had time to think about the implications. I am just over 40, so most of my class reunions were organized through Facebook and was amazed at the turn-out possible because of these new social networks. For my mother, there were simply people she no longer knew how to reach — including one of her best friends from childhood. Years went by until Fac…
Disagree.
I am around your age, and my 10 year reunion had its own domain name and website (still up - not sure who is paying for it or hosting), but my most recent reunion (20 year) was only on Facebook, and since I have never had a Facebook account, I did not find out until about a week beforehand (second-hand from a friend who was not attending).
Please be aware, this is a cohort that has mostly been together since elementary/middle school, learned Logowriter together, and had an HTML CD-ROM yearbook.
Facebook has made everybody lazy and cheapened our relationships.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#85I remember reading this when it was originally posted years ago and have had time to think about the implications. I am just over 40, so most of my class reunions were organized through Facebook and was amazed at the turn-out possible because of these new social networks. For my mother, there were simply people she no longer knew how to reach — including one of her best friends from childhood. Years went by until Fac…
> The point being, it is just as likely that the writer of this post wasn’t left out any more than he would have been in the past. Although this may apply to OP's problem(s), it's not really the case everywhere. I'll give you two counterexamples: 1) A friend of mine is required to have a facebook account for school (woodworking trade school). They say "you can always create one with a fake name" but that's obviously…
convenient = lazy
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#86I remember reading this when it was originally posted years ago and have had time to think about the implications. I am just over 40, so most of my class reunions were organized through Facebook and was amazed at the turn-out possible because of these new social networks. For my mother, there were simply people she no longer knew how to reach — including one of her best friends from childhood. Years went by until Fac…
Disagree. I am around your age, and my 10 year reunion had its own domain name and website (still up - not sure who is paying for it or hosting), but my most recent reunion (20 year) was only on Facebook, and since I have never had a Facebook account, I did not find out until about a week beforehand (second-hand from a friend who was not attending). Please be aware, this is a cohort that has mostly been together sinc…
How were people supposed to find about your domain name and website? How would you reach those who changed emails?
How does lack of domain and website cheapens relationships?
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#87I remember reading this when it was originally posted years ago and have had time to think about the implications. I am just over 40, so most of my class reunions were organized through Facebook and was amazed at the turn-out possible because of these new social networks. For my mother, there were simply people she no longer knew how to reach — including one of her best friends from childhood. Years went by until Fac…
If you lost contact so long ago, it migt be better to leave it like that: https://thoughtcatalog.com/stephanie-georgopulos/2011/08/a-l...
Spectacular essay — thanks for posting.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#88Honestly, this is true even if you're on facebook, if the algorithms don't feel like putting the event in your feed.
When someone invites you to an event, you receive a notification. You will be directly informed, you don't have to see it in your feed.
You can even setup an ical feed for events, they'll get added when people invite you. Don't even have to login.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#89[Without Facebook], I have to risk missing out on seminal life events
Is missing a high school reunion or the funeral of a long-list friend really "seminal"? Socially awkward, perhaps, but seminal? No, not really. Seminal is getting married, the death of a parent, birth of a child, finishing college. Not getting drunk with a bunch of people you barely know any more.
Re: Personal Reason for Hating Facebook (2015)
#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
Disagree. I am around your age, and my 10 year reunion had its own domain name and website (still up - not sure who is paying for it or hosting), but my most recent reunion (20 year) was only on Facebook, and since I have never had a Facebook account, I did not find out until about a week beforehand (second-hand from a friend who was not attending). Please be aware, this is a cohort that has mostly been together sinc…
How were people supposed to find about your domain name and website? How would you reach those who changed emails? How does lack of domain and website cheapens relationships?
There used to be these things called search engines, and we would be able to type the name of the school and the year we graduated, and the site would be one of the first results.
The domain was named to indicate it was reunion related.
If you couldn't find somebody's email address, you emailed their friend, or called them, and asked, "Do you know how I can get int touch with so and so...?"
YOU WOULD NEED TO COMMUNICATE WITH ANOTHER HUMAN TO OBTAIN INFORMATION.
But now, if it takes any effort to communicate with somebody, it doesn't happen.
Only the easy communication...and there is not much substance to it (bullshit small-talk or just posting links).