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Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by astrange »

jedberg wrote: post #400
young_unixer wrote: post #367

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> it's crazy that a women doesn't get paid for raising kids Are you suggesting that the father should pay the mother a salary for raising the kids? (Or same thing with the sexes reversed if it's the father raising the kid) Isn't that just a more formal arrangement of a stay-at-home mother/father? The main difference would be: more financial independence to the stay-at-home party, which is good in my book, but I'm not…

I believe the proposal is that the government should pay stay at home parents to remain that way, because it is a net benefit to society.

The ARPA past today does have child allowances in it. They're projected to end half of child poverty in the US (because it turns out you can unironically end poverty by giving people money.)

Well, until they run out anyway.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by astrange »

jimbokun wrote: post #263
nightowl_games wrote: post #164

The down stream effects of our system could be that the successful, educated, intelligent women and men dont have children, and the more aggressive, more risk taking, less educated among us have many children. This has the potential to massively harm our society in the long term. We need to ascribe virtue to having children. We need to ascribe an extremely high amount of virtue to being a good parent.

I think it's pretty well documented this is already happening. People with less education have more children, on average, than people with more education.

Maybe the people who spent longer in education just take too long to learn things.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by astrange »

dolni wrote: post #390
Draiken wrote: post #240

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I don't believe this is sexism at its core. The entire west society is built on the one axiom that work means value. Everything else is extra. That's even worse in the US. I'm in a similar situation where I'd love to be a parent full-time and be essentially free to live my life. But I could never do that even if my wife wanted to work and let me stay at home. With one person's salary, you can't really sustain a house…

If all companies decided to 4x all salaries tomorrow, the cost of all the things we pay for would rise drastically, offsetting whatever extra you're making. The answer is not as simple as "companies should just pay more."

It would not "offset whatever you're making". The economy isn't set up so the most cynical option is true. (I can beat you in cynicism anyway - most people don't have salaries so you'd now outbid non-workers such as the elderly by 4x what you did before.)

This is currently coming up as people claiming all stimulus bills will cause inflation, but there's no inflation in the US for the last 30 years, when we did have it the cause was an energy price spike, and so they have no empirical evidence.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by astrange »

nostrademons wrote: post #347
koverda wrote: post #148

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Could you elaborate on why California especially?

Not OP, but in the major Californian metropolises housing has a way of sucking out all available resources. There are lots of people and not enough land, which means that people have a tendency to bid up the price of available housing up to the very maximum that they can afford to pay. As a result, wages are high, but it all goes to landlords or previous homeowners. Worse, this applies down the income ladder, such th…

There's plenty of land in CA for infill development; the problem is it has one-story single family houses on it, and CA has banned development everywhere so nobody can replace them with something more sensible like a fourplex or a multi-story building.

If we could, things would get cheaper, and traffic might even get better (since commutes would improve.)

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by Mandatum »

tomcam wrote: post #435
astan wrote: post #67

Your whole blog resonates deeply with me. All this corporate grifting and women's empowerment months will do jack shit until we figure out how to make workplaces and lives more equitable for mothers and allowing for gaps, breaks and destigmatizing time off for parents of both genders. Instead, we talk about how sexism is the biggest problem. Sure, sexism might be annoying, but in the west, it is hardly something that…

Thanks. This is something dudes can't write about. My wife & I simply decided decades ago that one of us would always not work. We lived cheaply so we could accomplish that goal, but we wanted a good family life. I would have been happy to be a househusband because she's about 50 times the programmer I am, but she doesn't love business and I do. We ended up doing great, but we had to start out assuming that a 2-caree…

What is your opinion on this paper? I'm really quite surprised because although the sample size is commendable, it really doesn't reflect my own experience or reality amongst my social circle.

https://paa2013.princeton.edu/papers/132585

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by dolni »

astrange wrote: post #763
dolni wrote: post #390

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If all companies decided to 4x all salaries tomorrow, the cost of all the things we pay for would rise drastically, offsetting whatever extra you're making. The answer is not as simple as "companies should just pay more."

It would not "offset whatever you're making". The economy isn't set up so the most cynical option is true. (I can beat you in cynicism anyway - most people don't have salaries so you'd now outbid non-workers such as the elderly by 4x what you did before.) This is currently coming up as people claiming all stimulus bills will cause inflation, but there's no inflation in the US for the last 30 years, when we did have i…

The problem is not inflation. The problem is if you raise everyone's salary, the cost to produce increases. Therefore the cost of products must go up.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by astrange »

dolni wrote: post #766
astrange wrote: post #763

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It would not "offset whatever you're making". The economy isn't set up so the most cynical option is true. (I can beat you in cynicism anyway - most people don't have salaries so you'd now outbid non-workers such as the elderly by 4x what you did before.) This is currently coming up as people claiming all stimulus bills will cause inflation, but there's no inflation in the US for the last 30 years, when we did have i…

The problem is not inflation. The problem is if you raise everyone's salary, the cost to produce increases. Therefore the cost of products must go up.

That is true (it's called "cost disease") but, like, it's fine. It doesn't go up enough to make it harder to afford. Typically things that actually get much more expensive recently, like housing, have physical supply problems more than anything.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by Grustaf »

aidenn0 wrote: post #686
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I think most of the people HN haven’t spent much time with people out of the “bubble”. “Trigger warning” This is my experience from my wife, our friends, and my community & family. But it might provide some insight. 90% of women I speak to would love not to work and would like to raise kids (most men too). It’s more about the wage gap. Most of the people I speak with believe (and I agree) believe the lack of wage gro…

My job is a 40+ hour a week escape from my family. Overtime is a guilty pleasure. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. I force myself to spend time with my kids because of all the older people who say that they wish they had spent more time with their kids when they were younger. Many people I know who use work as an escape from family don't force themselves to spend time with their kids, and in 15 years I…

Why did you have kids then?

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Post by Grustaf »

readams wrote: post #705
sokoloff wrote: post #635

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Nothing to do with it is a strong claim. Do you believe that labor is a market that does not generally behave like other markets in terms of supply and demand for price discovery? Do you believe that immigration did not increase supply by more than it increased demand? I’m trying to tease apart and understand your certainty that there is no downward pressure on wages from immigration.

Immigrants also grow the economy and so create jobs. They participate in the economy as consumers and as entrepreneurs. Maybe a way to think about it that might help is to imagine a country containing only you. Would your job be safe?

Imagine if you will two countries, one poor and one well off. What happens if you merge them? The average salary drops, GDP per capita drops, tax revenue per capita drops, will infrastructure and welfare spend per capita rises.

You might believe that it will catch up at some point, but no body think this will take less than a few generations.

Who benefits in the meantime? The largest corporations, the ones whose size is only limited by the size of the country. So not your local restaurant.

Re: Female Founder Secrets: Fertility

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Post by JacobSuperslav »

Nebasuke wrote: post #716
JacobSuperslav wrote: post #505

i don't understand why adoption isn't more popular. besides the obvious shallow reasons of wanting a biological copy of yourself etc.

I don't think this is shallow. It's part of our core human being to try and propagate our genes, and there are good personal reasons for preferring this over adoption as well. Pregnancy can make it easier to relate to the child before they're born, at least it did for me (as a guy). I have considered adoption, but I do have a fear in the back of my mind that I might struggle to love the child as my own as quickly as…

I'm not feeling that. Perhaps most people are different. To me it always felt like that feeling is a social construct.
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